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I wish that some guys could understand gym and fitness culture can be different for women than it is for men
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Anonymous 5w

My mind keeps coming and circling back to this post because yeah. My bf wants me to come to the gym with him but he just can’t wrap his mind around the fact that the gym isn’t something to make me feel good and empower me like it does for him. For me the gym will always feel like a shameful punishment, a reminder that I’m not allowed to be content with the way I look

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Anonymous 5w

Men don’t realize life can be different for men and women in every aspect

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Anonymous 5w

The women I know all love going to the gym and don’t see it as a punishment

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Anonymous 4w

I mean in 40 years you’re gonna wonder why your bones and body hurts so much cause if you don’t use what you got you lose it and end up like most old women that are fragile and ppl wonder why old lady’s seriously injure themselves just by a simple fall. Maybe your man just wants you to stay active and live a long and healthy life…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Honestly! I used to go to the gym with a guy friend who would intentionally stand in front of me while I worked out and would stare down anyone who made me feel watched, but most men don’t realize how often women get stared at. Or how scary it can be to be in (what I think) is often a male dominant space

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

That’s the other thing about it too, is being looked at and judged. If I wear a tight gym set I’m a slut looking for attention. If I wear baggy clothes I’m a frumpy bum who doesn’t take care of herself. Bu it’s so good you had a friend looking out for you!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Yeah he started after I work a tank top to the gym because he wasn’t ready for how many stares I started getting. I’d rather be frumpy then ogled at honestly but that’s just me and it’s so hard to feel comfortable when you feel like you’r underdressed

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Good for them!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Thanks

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

He does. But he doesn’t understand that my entire life the gym has been a punishment and something that was meant to be shameful. And this is exactly what I meant by my post. A lot of men just can’t comprehend the gym isn’t empowering or exciting for women because of eating disorder culture. Every single time I’ve gone to gym it’s because I viewed myself as too disgusting to exist. Every time I’ve gone to the gym it wasn’t out of the desire to be healthy but out of shame and hatred for myself

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

And the point of my post is that for men the gym is about being healthy, while for a lot of women the gym is about becoming as thin as humanly possible. There’s nothing healthy about pushing yourself so hard you vomit, then refusing to eat after the exercise

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

You can work out at home? Or outside? Exercise is not limited to the gym

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I guess the gym is really only half of it, it’s also somewhat the exercise itself. Even if I do it at home I don’t think I can make my feelings of shame and disgust go away 😣

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