
I see where you’re coming from, naturally we want to hear our partners out, but honestly if it comes that naturally out of anger, he probably says those things frequently when you’re not around. 9 months feels like a long time, but don’t let yourself get into sunken-cost fallacies. Love is out there for you, and you will find someone with aligning morals. I’ve been with people who have done this same exact thing. You’re so deserving of a gentle lover who uses kind words.