Anonymous #1 1d

I’m scared

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Anonymous OP 1d

Don’t let them make your fears feel invalid. It is scary until you do it just like almost anything else. Normal to feel scared

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Anonymous #2 1d

No literally like what if I’m terrible or what if they think my body is weird or what if I can’t get horny

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Anonymous OP 1d

Do it with someone you trust who you won’t feel judged by and let it be natural. Like of course if you and your partner and thinking about it you should be prepared (condoms etc) but planning it puts more stress on it

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Anonymous #2 1d

Yea I guess it’s just hard to find someone who isn’t…. Especially since it’s hard for me to get close to people in the first place

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Anonymous #3 1d

Thanks guys <3

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Anonymous #7 1d

Ive never had sex

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Anonymous OP 1d

if it make you feel any better its kinda overrated on importance. kinda like how you thought kissing would be amazing but its just kissing

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Anonymous #7 1d

Oh? I think kissing is amazing when i do it. Like literal incredible and magical.

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Anonymous OP 1d

you probably had a rlly good partner! i think any form of intimacy just depends on the compatibility of the person

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Anonymous #7 1d

Ive never had a partner unfortunately it was just a few one night things haha

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Anonymous OP 1d

could have just been the moment too? sounds like fun though

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Anonymous #7 1d

Perhaps! It feels like those are the few times my body produces oxytocin and it is incredible to not feel dull!!

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Anonymous #8 1d

I mean it definitely is scary to have someone see your body/to probably be not good at sex. Etc

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Anonymous OP 1d

Yeah u probably shouldn’t be sharing ur body with folk when your not even comfortable in your own skin. Also “being bad at sex” is usually a knowledge or communication issue. It can be addressed and avoided.

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Anonymous #8 1d

I mean I haven’t shared my body with anyone. I just dont want to dissapoint them….

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Anonymous #9 1d

Im sorry

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Anonymous OP 1d

That’s valid just don’t forget it’s about you too. Communication and trust are everything in the bedroom

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Anonymous #8 1d

Welll yea, idk i dont feel much pleasure when i cum so i guess i would want to make sure they feel good at least

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Anonymous #7 1d

That’s ur experience doesn’t have to be there’s or ur tbh

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Anonymous OP 1d

That’s how you should feel in bed as well

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Anonymous #8 1d

lol its theirs btw

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Anonymous OP 1d

It’s okay, sex can be scary. But if your concerned about what they thinking about u just know in the moment they don’t rly care if ur not a Victoria secret model if they rly like u and respect u. Also if they know its your first time they arnt rly concerned on your”performance” lol some experienced people just lay there

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Anonymous #9 1d

I am a man so i feel it really does matter how good i am with my mouth and stuff yk? Also like i dont have abs or like massive muscles and idk…. Ive also unfortunately had some bad experiences with women that have left me traumatized :/

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Anonymous OP 1d

Do some research. There’s a lot more u can get out of sex that get that nut lol. You may be a person who enjoy giving more than receiving. Also there should be a significant difference from doing it ur self

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Anonymous #9 1d

You are very powerful for even admitting that to yourself. It does get better. Never stop loving yourself.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Sorry didn’t realize your male, honestly girls love when guys are virgins when in their 20’s 😆 atleast in my experience I was at a party one time and all the girls found out the host was a virgin he was 22, every girl wanted him. I’m sorry u had bad experiences those girls weren’t the right one

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Anonymous #8 1d

Aw thank u

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Anonymous OP 1d

My man has dad bod and I love it

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Anonymous #9 1d

I have lots of female friends but i think my trauma makes it hard for me to connect with women sexually :( ive only crushed on a few people in the past couple years and none like be back so its like bleh

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Anonymous OP 1d

That’s okay too. Everyone is not for everyone. And trust me, u do not want to be (for everyone) anyways.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Connect with a girl emotionally first and make it clear u wanna take things slow so u can connect and then get intimate and u can do small things at a time ya know, not everything all at once the right girl will be patient with you

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Anonymous #9 1d

Yea i know :/ i guess it’s just hard when im not attracted to most ppl lolll. I dont wanna do it just to do it yk… also because of the trauma and stuff sometimes when i get close i feel like so anxious and scared so idk how it fix that

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Anonymous OP 1d

But i do miss cuddling and sleeping in the same bed so bad. I did it once with such a wonderful woman and it was so special

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Anonymous OP 1d

I’m having other problem where I am attracted to everyone 😆 if they are kind and stuff. So I’d say maybe Councelling to figure out why it’s hard for you to get close and coping mechanisms. Obviously the trauma u went thru made a toll but sometimes there’s something deeper

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Anonymous OP 1d

You will find a sweet girl one day when ur not expecting it. Having the comfort of going home to the same person every night feels amazing

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Anonymous #9 1d

I hope u heal too <3. I hope it comes soon… 21 years and just trauma and yearning is tiring!! I just wanna be healed and normal!!

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