Anonymous #1 16h

that id have to basically give up my bodily autonomy for 9 months and risk permanent disability or death. and even if everything went perfect i still have to go through the pain of pregnancy + birth and deal with all the changes to my body

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Anonymous #2 16h

yeah i already have, she wasn’t super helpful. which is why im asking here 😭

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Anonymous #3 16h

i mean that doesn’t stop it from being unfair though 😭 that’s kinda what i’m struggling with

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Anonymous OP 16h

Why is it unfair?

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Anonymous #2 16h

i didn’t feel like typing it again lol

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Anonymous OP 16h

Wait so it’s unfair that children require pregnancy requires being pregnant? You’re calling biology unfair?

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Anonymous #1 16h

when it’s a burden only a woman faces to bring a child into the world while a man doesn’t have to worry about it yeah ofc i’m gonna call it unfair? just bc it’s biology that doesn’t make it fair

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Anonymous #1 16h

ig at a baseline i’d want there to be equal risk between both people

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Anonymous OP 15h

I think the way most women get through it is because of the hormones it causes the body to release which doesn’t make it fair but does make it easier. Its the reason there are women who go through pregnancy multiple times willlingly and they (likely/hopefully) have a good support system too

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Anonymous #3 15h

idk even with that pregnancy seems miserable 😭 like there’s no guarantee i’d have an enjoyable pregnancy much less one that didn’t kill me and idk how to get over that

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Anonymous OP 15h

Yea its unfortunate, but the medical awareness around pregnancy is much better now. I think the way people get through it is that they see having a kid as a very big benefit compare to the complications that could arise

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Anonymous #3 15h

that’s true! maybe i don’t want kids as badly as i thought bc the more i think about it the worse i feel about having a kid lol

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Anonymous OP 15h

I think it also comes easier when u have a stable partner so I dont think its something to put much thought into without that

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Anonymous #3 15h

honestly even imagining having a partner doesn’t make it much better. idk how i wouldn’t resent him for not having to deal with being pregnant lol

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Anonymous OP 15h

Oh he’ll be dealing with it, as grumpy as it sounds like you’ll be. Ya know, if you don’t want to give birth, then adopt! Or do IVF and have a surrogate woman carry the fetus to term. Theres ways to work around being pregnant. But to start blasting about unfairness is hard to read. Where is it guaranteed that life will be fair? This is the way our biological system has evolved. If you don’t want to go thru it, fine.

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Anonymous OP 15h

As a guy watching his older brother have a kid, theres plenty of risk and responsibility to go around.

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Anonymous #2 15h

then don’t read it lol? no one’s forcing you to respond to this. it’s really easy to say it’s just biology when you won’t have to deal with anything being discussed

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Anonymous #2 15h

i didn’t realize he was at risk of dying bc he was pregnant. wow <3

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Anonymous #1 12h

well yes. life is notoriously known for being unfair, biology included.

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