Lust plays both genders, I don’t think having sex is a sin. It’s a pride thing for guys, in front of other males. This isn’t every male, and 90% of males who this applies to will grow out of it by ~24 years old. However, if they are in relationship. Man will cheat based on lust. Woman will cheat based on emotions.
For the most part I find men being driven by lust (or pride as you say) when they have high body counts, and that is sinful. Most women are very emotional about it since they fall in love much harder even if it’s a fling. I think it’s best to wait until marriage under both circumstances, I just found it odd that it was mentioned men inflate their body counts when it shows a greater lack of self control on their part. How can a man lead his family if he cannot fight those urges?
Yup, completely understand; I mean I probably brought a lot of baggage into my marriage. There is always an underlying issue “baggage”, when you are growing up and sleeping around looking for love that your mother never gave you. So you sleep around and sleep around. But there is always a baggage.
I also want to say I moved mountains to gain trust of my wife to prove her that I can deal with the baggage and been married for 7 years. Picture this and choose your poison A. A guy who loved him self and did not sleep around but placed no effort, Asks you to marry him. B. A guy who slept around, but placed a lot of effort, asks you to marry him. My point is there will be a guy who will move mountain for you. Regardless if he was a slut or not. all it matters is the effort he puts in.