Anonymous #1 3w

It’s the mix of feeling like you hope he gets to the end of the line and regrets everything, but you wish you could talk about it, but you want to bring it up, but he was the adult, but you’re an adult now, but you don’t know what to say, but you want to have that time back, but things are good without him, but things could be different, but the time passed already, but there’s so much time left, but you want him to say something, but him saying something hurts, but him saying nothing hurts, but

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Anonymous OP 3w

yes.

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Anonymous #1 3w

Have you guys ever talked about anything? I always get caught up between the “he doesn’t know because he thinks he’s always right, if anything were to happen it would just make him angry or me upset” and “he cannot be that stupid to not understand why none of his kids are close with him, he has to remember what he said to me, he just doesn’t care.” There have been so many times where I want to say something to him but I just wish he’d acknowledge everything. It hurts

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Anonymous OP 3w

Contextually my parents divorced when I was in like 1st grade so he’s been around, but I literally turned 13 and he basically stopped acting like I was worthy of compassion ‼️my mom was an alcoholic (we’ve got a great relationship now, but it took time) so it was just shitty. My sisters and I were just stuck, oldest is no-contact, youngest is christmas and July 4th, I got a half brother who is a beautiful person, he’s who I come around for (I won’t let my dad hurt him like he hurt us)

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Anonymous OP 3w

My dad just goes down the “everything is fine always” avenue and it’s AWFULLL like I just hate being in the in-between with him. I want to fix things but he’s never acknowledged a thing, I just feel like he’s bluffing about how happy he is and how much he might want things to be different, but he’s never said anything to me or my sisters about regrets or apologies or wanting our relationship to be different. I think he thinks that we’re the reason that things are bad, like we’ve left him behind

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Anonymous OP 3w

just keep showing up. me and my dad have had conversations and it is finally starting to maybe change our relationship... but he will never change. i've accepted it.

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