Anonymous #3 16w

We will definitely do more research into all the options once we are engaged, but I just thought it was a very considerate gesture for him to be willing to do that so I don’t have to struggle with finding birth controls

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Anonymous OP 16w

OP ignore #3, everything they said is completely false. vasectomies are safe and reversible!

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Anonymous #4 16w

this might be a good idea tho, would never hurt

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Anonymous #1 16w

Reversal success rate declines after 10-15 years. Google is your friend guys.

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Anonymous #6 16w

We won’t be waiting that long I don’t think

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Anonymous #6 16w

doctors are too lol, if a trusted doctor says it’s safe/unsafe, i would go with that

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Anonymous #3 16w

side effects from birth control r worse than a vasectomy like what, vasectomies r reversible and in very rare cases they cause infertility

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Anonymous #8 16w

So notice how I said “when we are married”.

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Anonymous #19 16w

Honestly😭

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Anonymous #3 16w

Aren’t they like 95% or more reversible depending on the doctors?

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Anonymous OP 16w

I definitely recommend doing a sperm collection beforehand if you can just incase something goes wrong with the vasectomy! It’s rare but it’s always worth the precaution!

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Anonymous #17 16w

The copper one? That definitely has side effects for people but it’s just not from hormones

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Anonymous #17 16w

*loud incorrect buzzer*

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Anonymous #1 16w

please do some research. vasectomies aren’t supposed to be done and undone unless absolutely necessary. it declines effectiveness as well so lots of heartache could follow

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Anonymous #3 16w

Have him freeze his sperm but it only last a few years

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Anonymous #29 16w

That doesn’t seem accurate. You can store sperm for much longer than a few years in the right environment

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Anonymous #34 16w

Solution wear a condom

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Anonymous #14 16w

We did both because I’m so genuinely terrified of getting pregnant. I’m really happy to be single now

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Anonymous #3 16w

Ssshhh….

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Anonymous #1 16w

Yikes… you shouldn’t be 100% reliant on one thing and blindly depend on it. No procedure is 100%. Some have higher success rate than others, but plenty of things can go wrong and unplanned. This is why research is important. You’re basically giving out inaccurate information

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Anonymous #41 16w

They are quite easily reversible with the right doctors (like 95%) but definitely go for someone more experienced for both procedures with high success rates to make sure. Doctors who are less experienced or just worse at the procedure can be as low as 60% reversibility.

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Anonymous #41 16w

I mean 95% reversible not 95% of doctors

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Anonymous #42 16w

Saying sometimes reversible seems misleading as if it being reversible is the minority when even at its lowest reversibility level it’s still 60%. Obviously still recommend the sperm bank but vasectomies are mainly reversible!

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Anonymous #44 16w

Yes you still ejaculate, the sperm just won’t be in there

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Anonymous #44 16w

my boyfriend said i was a monster for wanting my sweet baby boy to get cut up

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Anonymous #45 16w

That’s crazy 💀

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Some people actually have bad responses to it and don’t want to be on it and being on it causes higher risk for specific health conditions. That’s not propaganda, that’s just the truth. No one is hating #1 for enjoying their birth control as it works well for some people.

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https://www.statista.com/statistics/1415167/percentage-of-contraceptive-using-women-reporting-side-effects-us/#:~:text=In%20addition%2C%20nearly%20eight%20out,using%20women%20in%20the%20U.S. This reports nearly 80% of women experiencing 2 or more side effects from birth control. It was done in 2022

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… dude. Side effects are absolutely a reason to not take meds. Every medication is a cost analysis. Some meds can kill you and birth control is one of them if you have specific conditions, so it absolutely matters. Personally bc made me extremely sick and debilitating anxiety so even though it would treat my endo, I can’t be on it.

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I absolutely discourage the use of any unnecessary or voluntary medication (meaning it won’t kill you if you don’t take it) and respect that some side effects are not worth the medication and everyone responds differently.

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

I think they mean that side effects existing is not a reason to not try the bc. Of course if you feel bad on a certain pill you should stop taking it

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Anonymous #17 16w

Many people experience terrible cramps from this

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I personally respond horribly to most medications and always have adverse reactions. If it’s a steroid I need to breathe? Obviously I stick with the side effects. But if it’s hormonal birth control that can be replaced with non hormonal contraceptives? No thanks I’ll stay off of it.

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Yeah after one of those pills destroyed my immune system for half a year, I’ll take a pass on taking them again….

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Anonymous #25 16w

Guys in the comment section aren’t seeing the picture. Get a vasectomy so you can hit it raw

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It’s literally written in the boxes for birth controls. It explains all possible side effects and severities. It’s effective and for most people, the side effects are minimal and manageable. But that does not take away from the validity of not wanting to be on a medication or the bad experience of those who have been on it and responded poorly to the medication.

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You realize male bc pills were trialed and unreleased bc men had “too many symptoms” (same as women)

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Anonymous #1 16w

be careful if you have a male doctor tho bc my friend was chilling with her BC for years before switching over to a female doctor and immediately hearing that the BC she had was not intended to be used for longer than 3 years regardless of side effects or not

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Anonymous #57 16w

You realize birth control is what has given women economic freedom, right? You guys are so obsessed with side effects that you don’t see this is a ploy to take your options away from you.

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Anonymous #3 16w

that’s why you have your husbands sperm saved incase you want to have kids in the future. or adoption is a beautiful thing

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It certainly can be. Birth control is amazing, lifesaving medication that should be available to any woman who wants it or needs it for medical reasons, as I do. That said, for many women, it is a pain in the ass to figure out which birth control doesn’t make you gain excess weight, break out, get headaches, throw up, experience mood swings, bleed randomly, or want to kill yourself. It is sometimes even a pain in the ass just to figure out which of the aforementioned you can tolerate.

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Anonymous #48 16w

Birth control does give women economic freedom. No form of contraception should be legally restricted just because it doesn’t work for every woman. However, you can’t fault a woman for wanting to get off birth control if it is making her feel icky. It is just that simple.

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Anonymous #60 16w

Very levelheaded take.

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Anonymous #60 16w

A vasectomy is >99% effective, outpatient, and usually covered by insurance. It’s meant to be permanent, and while reversal is sometimes possible (with 70–90% success within 10 years), it’s not guaranteed. There’s also a small but serious risk of post-vasectomy pain syndrome (~1–2%), which can cause chronic discomfort. Cost ranges from $0 to $1,000, depending on insurance and provider.

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Anonymous #60 16w

IUDs (copper or hormonal) are also >99% effective, last 3–10 years, and are immediately reversible upon removal. They require no surgery, but insertion can be painful, and hormonal types may cause side effects like mood changes, cramping, or spotting. A serious but rare complication is uterine perforation, which occurs in 1–2 per 1,000 insertions (0.1–0.2%), with higher risk in postpartum or breastfeeding women. Cost ranges from $0 to $1,300, depending on insurance.

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wdym ?

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Anonymous #46 16w

i think the way you worded it made it seem like you were saying condoms make you infertile haha. it took me a second read to get it.

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Anonymous #1 16w

use google #1 😭 this isn't entirely true

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Anonymous #63 16w

Huh???? Where did you get that stat?

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Anonymous #34 16w

If you’re that scared of being pregnant just don’t have penetrative sex… genuinely don’t understand the issue here with everyone and birth control and condoms

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Anonymous #45 16w

Circumcision is a violation of human rights and it’s shocking that we allow it for male babies despite the equal protection clause that ensures equal protection under the law.

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Anonymous #60 16w

I don’t believe anyone should use contraceptive or undertake that burden

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Anonymous #60 16w

But there is a new non hormonal birth control coming out in the USA soon which seems extremely promising especially seeing how it’s already been so successful outside of the USA !!

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Anonymous #67 16w

Contraceptives include condoms ?

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Anonymous #67 16w

Circumcision is indeed bad when it’s not medically indicated, but I think #45’s bf was just being silly and referring to himself as a “sweet baby boy”.

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Anonymous #56 16w

Typical guidelines are actually to use two methods of birth control simultaneously if you want to avoid pregnancy. That way if you accidentally miss a pill or the condom breaks, you’re not totally screwed. Well, like, you are, but not in the bad way.

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Anonymous #67 16w

Good thing no one is forcing you to use contraceptives, then.

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Anonymous #64 16w

IUD only give a small amount of people no problems

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it’s never guaranteed

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^sorry yeah thats what I meant, maybe put some swimmers in a bank just in case.

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Anonymous #50 16w

Vasectomy has a very low chance of being reversible. It’s only for those with 100% certainty they NEVER want kids or don’t want more. IUDs biggest risk is cutting something inside but that’s a fairly small risk. Again it’s between them lol

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Anonymous #74 16w

I aint gonna neuter myself 😭😭 imma just wear a strap

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Anonymous #51 16w

okay so i’m gonna need you to google “vasectomy” and then google “castration”and note the differences babe. a vasectomy does not remove any part of your reproductive organs. it is a lil snip snip. to get neutered is to get one’s balls chopped off. very different.

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Anonymous #59 16w

OH

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Anonymous #64 16w

there’s more risk than that lol

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Anonymous #74 16w

i’m a trans man so i don’t think he could teach me

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Anonymous #67 16w

do we have heaping amounts of circumcised men yearning for their foreskin or something??

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Anonymous #58 16w

#67 has been all up and down here saying nonsense, but I do agree with them about circumcision. There are cases where circumcision is medically beneficial, but if you don’t have to surgically modify a newborn’s genitals for them to be healthy, why take the risk? Like, most guys will be able to keep their stuff clean regardless. It’s like tonsils — some people need ‘em out, but some people’s tonsils don’t bother them at all, so might as well not undergo surgery to remove them.

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Anonymous #59 16w

i feel similarly about piercing babies’ ears. like… let them make their own decisions when they’re old enough to understand what’s happening

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Anonymous #75 16w

Yeah, I’m not really a fan of piercing babies’ ears either. I remember getting mine pierced at a Claire’s in the mall by a random teenage cashier. Knowing what I know now about their sanitization practices (or lack thereof) I wouldn’t let a baby within 10 feet of one of those piercing guns lol.

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No shade to you because there’s nothing wrong with frank discussions about anatomy, but I cannot imagine my brother and I EVER having a casual discussion about his foreskin lmao. I think if I said the word “vagina” in front of him he’d be like, “Okay, great seeing you. Bye forever.”

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Anonymous #75 16w

hopefully one day trans people can be as blissfully unaware of reproductive medical inconvenience as the average cis man with a girlfriend on the pill

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Anonymous #59 16w

so fuckin real omfg

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Anonymous #64 16w

Yeah, I love the energy OP’s bf is giving but an IUD probably is the safer way to go if they ever want biological kids. Just as a PSA, another thing that can happen with an IUD is pelvic inflammatory disease. Not very likely but worth knowing the symptoms so you can haul ass to the doctor if you think you might have it. It can make you infertile.

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Anonymous #59 16w

yikyakers when youd rather wear a condom than potentially permanently harm ur reproductive ability 💀

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Anonymous #59 16w

and no my gf is not on the pill because I dont want her to experience the negative consequences that are risked by taking it

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Anonymous #51 16w

coercing someone into making a major reproductive health decision is always 100% wrong and a violation of their fundamental right to bodily autonomy. if somebody ever tries to force you or trick you into getting a vasectomy, tell them to go fuck themselves. but if your gf asks, “babe, would you ever get a vasectomy?” it might help you to know she is not asking you to literally sacrifice your balls

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Anonymous #59 16w

I understand she would never trick me into doing something just like I would never coerce her into making a decision. however, we both understand in our own perspective that the potential risk of doing such a thing would carry unnecessary risk to any future children especially at this young age. While I understand the nice gesture being made it appears to be poorly thought out and quite honestly irresponsible and pick me.

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i mean they certainly dont feel as good but I am not tryna have kids yet

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Anonymous #51 16w

there are better ways to achieve the same result and I am certainly not a fan of only women taking the pill

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Anonymous #51 16w

it does sound like an IUD for OP is a more practical choice, but you lost me with calling her bf a pick-me lmao. like yes, he wants to be picked. they are talking about getting married to each other. they are planning to pick each other for the rest of their lives. like imagine they get married and she texts him while he’s at work to remind him they’re out of advil or smth and he’s like “idk i don’t want to respond too fast. she can’t know i’m into her. that’s cringe”

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

Their likelihood of being reversible does decline with time tho. It’s the primary reason I turned down my ex’s request for me to get snipped when I was 21. We both don’t want kids, but I remembered her talking about revisiting the (biological) kids discussion once we’re both settled in to our careers and over 30. That, higher risks of malpractice as a black person, and insurance not always covering reversals was enough to discourage me

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Anonymous #59 16w

that not really a fair comparison to this

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Anonymous #79 16w

He literally gonna be hitting it raw

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Anonymous #55 16w

Probably isn’t actually gonna get a vasectomy and she’s gonna be pregnant

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Anonymous #77 16w

every accusation is a confession

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Anonymous #51 16w

it’s really more of a joke. and btw calling people “pick-me” for making decisions that are considerate of their partners’ needs and comfort is also not fair.

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Anonymous #80 16w

Asking a man to get a vasectomy is equivalent to a woman getting her tubes tied (it’s literally the same thing) lmao this post is delusional

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Anonymous #67 16w

Imagine asking your bf to get his tubes tied instead of simply either wearing a condom or just Not Having Risky Sex

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Anonymous #67 16w

surprised the downvote train from the bots hasnt hit these comments yet

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Anonymous #51 16w

my downvotes make me feel insane for just stating facts

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Anonymous #67 16w

the difference is men will drag their feet and kick and moan about their wife even asking while if i had the $10,000 to get my tubes tied today and i could convince my OBGYN to do it even though i am an unmarried woman under 30 i would do it in a heartbeat

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Anonymous #67 16w

Yeah that’s not equivalent at all. Tubes tied is less reversible than a vasectomy especially depending on the method of “tying”, it’s also more likely to accidentally cause pregnancy still or to fail, and on top of that it’s a much more major surgery than a vasectomy. You have to be under for longer, but through muscle and fat, and much longer recovery time (weeks).

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Anonymous #67 16w

Also for insurance men are much more likely to get approved than woman and tying your tubes is much more expensive (because it’s a longer and harder process).

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Anonymous #67 16w

Not saying that all men should get vasectomies, just that it’s truly not comparable to tying your tubes. Plus for a vasectomy men will get opioid type pain killers and women can sometimes only get ibuprofen even though the women would have many more incisions and pain. (Which is just bad doctors and outdated medical advice but a reality nonetheless)

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Anonymous #67 16w

But just wearing condoms is definitely not as effective as most people believe and I don’t want and can’t have kids even after marriage because of health reasons, so yeah I’m going to have sex with my husband and condoms don’t cut it. Vasectomy is the best option.

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Anonymous #67 16w

All sex is risky, it can always lead to pregnancy, and even when you’re married you both might not want any kids. It’s not a ridiculous suggestion for a man to get a vasectomy. In this case with OP I think they should just wait until the non hormonal male bc comes out because that’s the safest and least problematic option for their situation.

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

wow so this man id risking getting an opioid addiction too maybe wearing a condom is a better idea

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Anonymous #80 16w

if ur downvoted on yikyak ur probably right. I saw someone get downvotes for being against pdf files

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Anonymous #51 16w

Dude, you can always just request a lower pain medication if you are worried about forming an addiction. I’m saying that women aren’t even offered the stronger stuff even though medically it makes zero sense to not give it to them.

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Anonymous #51 16w

How effective do you believe condoms are?

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

oh yeah thats just the healthcare system being evil and wanting money

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

100% if u do t c*m inside

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

we were given mouths for a reason, id rather just not finish inside than get a vasectomy

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Anonymous #51 16w

If you combine them they are not 100% they would likely be in the 99th percentile but nothing is 100%

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Anonymous #51 16w

And that’s your personal opinion and not everyone holds that same view

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

yeah the sprem would need to grow wings or get teleportation powers like n enderman or sum shit but i get that

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Anonymous mother_russia 16w

Nothing is 100% so let’s not get vasectomies for some woman who might end up cheating and getting knocked up by someone else and meanwhile you can never have a kid again bcuz they fked up the surgery

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Anonymous #51 16w

Me when I lie

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