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adulthood is realizing your dad isn’t the fun parent, he’s just neglectful to your mom and 20 years of that has made her bitter.

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Anonymous 8w

Be the change. Keep your head up!

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Anonymous 8w

For me he's the only person keeping her from sliding into violent psychosis

Anonymous 8w

at 19, i never thought of my dad as neglectful to my dukes, he always does everything in his power to please her and make sure shes good before he is, along with the rest of my siblings too. hate that some dads aren’t like that with their families, hurts my soul to hear people think like this

Anonymous 8w

Damn sorry yall had rough family dynamics

Anonymous 8w

And it sucks even more when it rubs off on your brother and you begin to act more like your mom. The cycle just continues…

Anonymous 8w

for me it’s the other way around

Anonymous 8w

It took my parents divorcing and seeing him in other relationships to see it. Things are honestly pretty tense half the time because he sees it as his partner should just do more and gets frustrated that he now is asked to pitch in so much more than he ever had to. I actually adore my dad’s girlfriend but they are both miserable. I’ve been home for at least half the summer and what happens is I am expected to pick up the slack instead. He refuses to get a vasectomy or do any amount of protection

Anonymous 8w

Exactly this

Anonymous 8w

stg. dads are the worst

Anonymous 8w

That’s my goal!

Anonymous 8w

silent repost

Anonymous 8w

For me it was my mom. The fun parent being the irresponsible one

Anonymous 8w

Mannnnnnn…. Ida beat the DOG SHIT outa my pops for sum dumb shit like this. Woulda left em with a limp.

Anonymous 8w

exactly. he never did anything

Anonymous 8w

Yup

Anonymous 8w

this is so phil and claire dunphy

Anonymous 8w

So you found out your parents are human. 🎉

Anonymous 8w

My parents have a healthy relationship 😹

Anonymous 8w

story of my life: —emotionally abusive mom who had custody of me —dad who was active in my life but financially irresponsible causing my mom to always be stressed and lash out

Anonymous 8w

Yup. This shit sucks.

Anonymous 8w

unfortunately

Anonymous 8w

You good?

Anonymous

#6 8w

In my case he enables her lashing out at any and everyone including her grandchildren bc it keeps the heat off of himself. Hes a coward.

Anonymous

#2 8w

Does he blame others when she lashes out 😭

Anonymous

#7 8w

Everytime, and says we oughta apologize and get back in her good graces so she can be happy

Anonymous

#9 8w

You’re aware of it so you can break it

Anonymous

#6 8w

Wow the psychosis part resonates with me :( my dad allowed my mom to slip into raging psychosis and lash out onto me and when I cut her off because I couldn’t take it anymore he was like oh I thought it was a character flaw this entire time not mental illness

Anonymous

#10 8w

dam don’t gotta rub it in 😭

Anonymous

#10 8w

word 2 bro😂

Anonymous

#11 8w

I’ve been pleading with family members I haven’t talked to in over a decade (bc my mom isolated me from them) to do something to help my mom bc she won’t listen to me. Instead they guilt trip me about cutting her off and say if I just talk to her she’ll be okay again. It’s so painful

Anonymous

#13 8w

I now have five younger sisters and a brother on the way. My mother begged to get her tubes tied and my dad wouldn’t consent because he still wanted a boy. My mom’s mental health took a major toll and I watched how it destroyed her when there was girl after girl. Now this is the second kid of my dad and his girlfriend and she already had three girls. I know he is miserable but is sometimes so awful. I worry my sisters will want nothing to do with him as soon as they turn 18. The thing is is my-

Anonymous

#13 8w

mother almost gave up custody but didn’t want to pay child support and is a much better half-time parent . She also did a lot of fucked up things and I genuinely thought she was going to off my dad at one point due to how erratic she got. I understand more now even if there are things I still cannot forgive her for. I only resumed contact somewhat because my younger sisters started asking questions and I didn’t want to taint how they saw her.

Anonymous

#11 8w

i’m so sorry, that is awful. obviously you can only do so much which sucks, but if your family chooses to enable and ignore her behavior that is on them. it’s amazing that you still try to help her despite your relationship. that shows that you really care, your other family most likely doesn’t care enough to see it. keep your head up and keep being a light 🫶🏼

Anonymous

#18 8w

Thank you, you’re really sweet for this 🫶

Anonymous 8w

ma dukes, another way of referring to my mom😂 my bad for the confusion

Anonymous

#2 8w

my exp is that many men and dads are this way

Anonymous

#11 8w

sorry #11 that blows. family situations can be so hard. i started seeing a therapist and went on an anti depressant. it’s helped. hope it works out better soon 🫶🏻

Anonymous

#21 8w

Hell nah I love my dad. Sorry for yalls experienced tho

Anonymous

#22 8w

love my dad but i can understand the constant stress of living with someone who doesn’t prioritize you and puts you in continuous financially irresponsible situations

Anonymous

#22 8w

doesn’t mean how my mom treated me was ok though 😪

Anonymous

#21 8w

That’s the crazy part. I love my dad to death and have practically junked anytime he ever told me to do anything. It’s just recently that I’ve realized some things. I had issues with my car and he kept saying that’s what I get and fussing at me about it. The thing is that my car is always the default car and I don’t even get to drive it when I’m home. I work overnights remotely so I will wake up and often my car will just be gone. I asked for two months for the insurance card because the last-

Anonymous

#13 8w

One expired. I go back and forth since it’s a 2hr drive but if I don’t get it then it might be weeks before I have it. He forgot it and told me he would print it out. I went to his office before I left for Tuscaloosa. He took my sisters with him since I was leaving and couldn’t watch them. He would text and say in just a few minutes and then 10 would pass. It was over an hour at this point. I wanted to leave earlier in the day because I had issues with the alternator and until it is rebuilt-

Anonymous

#13 8w

It may also be an electrical circuit. But the point is I have to be careful because the voltage or whatnot drops if the air and lights are on. So I haven’t had my air on. That day there was a heat warning and it was at least 95. I wanted to leave earlier when it was cooler. I needed to leave but it was getting so hot out that I knew I would be miserable. I’ve gotten sick several times this summer just from the heat. I texted and he blew up on me. I was also in an office with four screaming kids

Anonymous

#13 8w

Hadn’t slept in two days because every time I tried to there was a kid in my face needing something. I had it and started bawling. I called my sister and was inconsolable.

Anonymous

#2 8w

do we have the same dad ?

Anonymous

#4 8w

same but my dad is also like incel y and bitter anyways

Anonymous

#27 8w

thankfully my dad isn’t. my mom is the one that sucks and is bitter abt everything

Anonymous

#4 8w

dangg sucks 💓💓

Anonymous

#9 8w

Yeah. My relationship with my brother is nonexistent. He’s a dick