Anonymous #2 76w

It’s not the feeling I’m worried about 😭 I don’t want anyone looking at my cooch 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #4 76w

It’s not a big deal, they see hundreds of body parts everyday so they’re not judging you or anything and they only touch you for one or two quick exams and they get your permission first

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Anonymous #4 76w

still super scary. ik it's literally their job but something about someone staring at my 😽 freaks me tf out

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Anonymous #1 76w

Same 🥲

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Anonymous #3 76w

Are you serious??????? Oh my god I can finally go to the doctor again without fear of a Pap smear!!!! Thank you!!!

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Anonymous #14 76w

I am 20 and have NOT gone.

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Anonymous #16 76w

I’m also 20 💀💀

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Same reason you’d go to get semi regular checkups to a general doctor!! Since they specialize in cooteronomy, they’d be able to make sure it’s healthy down there and if it isn’t, catch anything before it gets worse!!! 🫶🏽

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Anonymous #17 76w

The fear of cervical cancer scares me way more than the actual Pap smear so 😀

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Anonymous OP 76w

I had a girl doctor and she was great. Remember: they’ve helped women give birth so your cooch is nothing

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Anonymous #27 76w

Abortion clinic was dude and gyno was a lady we both legit get caught up talking bec she’s so chill I legit enjoy going now bec my gynos so awesome

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Anonymous #20 76w

Real as fuck

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I’m not insecure I just don’t want them up in my business

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Nothing concerning has happened yet 🥴 I kind of suck at getting around to that shit tho I needed glasses for like an entire year before I got them 💀💀 but I’m planning to see a gyno when I turn 21 cause that’s what I’ve heard is when u fr need to go for the first time

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Anonymous #36 76w

THE WORST

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Anonymous #44 76w

I’m trans too actually

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Anonymous #44 76w

been thru it! i promise it’s not as bad as you think!!! the worst part was how cold the speculum was 😭

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Anonymous #43 76w

- a trans guy idk if that was rly obvious or not ooosn

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Anonymous #14 76w

I’m 22 and never gone. I’ll go someday tho 😗

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Anonymous #41 76w

A YEAR??!? Oh hell no, you’re not gonna have me worried for a year! They can’t take you back sooner to re examine you?

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Anonymous #44 76w

Been once. My gyno was a super nice gal. The dysphoria afterwards and during was legit the worst I’ve ever felt. Went home and didn’t leave my bed for 2 days

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Anonymous OP 76w

Pap smear doesn’t hurt that much, there’s a lot of misconceptions about it. I had mine a few months ago

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Anonymous #46 76w

No😭 they said it could be nothing but they book up like 6 months in advance and they won’t see me until next year for another 😭

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Anonymous #60 76w

20 😗✌️

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Anonymous #60 76w

21 😎

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Anonymous #60 76w

she said she was 20 in the earlier comments

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Anonymous #4 76w

It’s he actually

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Anonymous #52 76w

I know you’re like the 30th person to tell me it’s really not about the pain or insecurity it’s just super fucking invasive 💀 like I’m gonna do it when I have to but no offense I don’t get why people keep trying to reassure me it’s normal/doesn’t hurt when there’s no changing that it’s invasive to have someone all up in your vagina

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Anonymous #58 76w

Mine does but they told me that bc they have to send it off it’s the charge for the campus appt ($20) plus the lab fee ($130)

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Anonymous #44 76w

Yes omfg 😭 I have vaginismus afaik and I was never even able to use a tampon ,,, I’ve been dreading the gynecologist for years

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Anonymous #64 76w

Idk I was always told 21 and neither my mom or my primary care have started harassing me about it so 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 76w

i just realized you're FTM not the other way around. i'm so so sorry!!! ☹️ forgive me

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Anonymous #64 76w

Cringe. I don’t abide by society’s rules. (I am a virgin)

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Anonymous #4 76w

No worries it happens lol

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Anonymous OP 76w

ok i dont wanna assume anything but if youve had sex/are having sex you should have already been to the gyno. if you havnt no sweat!

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Anonymous #60 76w

I have not had sex 🫡🫡

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Anonymous OP 76w

Could be me! my first gynecologist appointment I found out I was pregnant. And my mom was there for moral support! Currently 14 weeks pregnant yall

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Anonymous #36 76w

Im sorry 😢. All health care should be universal

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Anonymous #76 76w

I’m 20 💀 sources vary but some say you should go at 16, 18, or 21. Or after you become sexually active, whichever comes first. Idk why people keep thinking I’m a child 💀💀💀💀 most people don’t see a gyno until they’re an adult

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Anonymous #77 76w

Good luck soldier 🫡

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Anonymous #78 76w

"iF u R sExUaLlY U r sUpPoSeD tO bE ThErE" (nothing against u #78 it just made me laugh😭)

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Anonymous OP 76w

Sorry I just realized this gif probably looks kind of insane to anyone not on tumblr it’s a meme there

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I genuinely don’t think people are doing it on purpose but I won’t lie and say I’m not annoyed by it. I feel like it’s pretty reasonable to not want someone to stick objects in your vagina and I shouldn’t be talked to like I’m being childish or worrying too much for not being happy about that.

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Anonymous #3 76w

Wait really??? Imma have to see bc I need that

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Anonymous #30 76w

It’s not that bad

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THANK YOU also it’s like. I’m not even letting any lovers get all up and personal with my genitals so why would I be happy about a stranger rooting around in there?!?!

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Anonymous OP 76w

Truthfully, if you aren’t sexually active, as long as you aren’t making out with anyone or doing oral there’s pretty much no chance you have HPV, and don’t need a Pap smear. Even if you are, a simple HPV test will suffice, as long as it’s negative — no “rooting around” necessary 😂

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Anonymous #22 76w

I’ve been told it’s still something u should do cause even without any STDs you can get cervical cancer so idk but I have time to figure it out and I’m sure my primary care will say something if she thinks I should do it anyway

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Anonymous OP 76w

Yeah my Primary care Dr said the age is like 22 if not sexually active

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Anonymous #86 76w

My regular doctor did it and it wasn’t uncomfortable at all I think the more you stress the more it hurts

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Anonymous #90 76w

How could she even tell

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Anonymous #89 76w

There isn’t really a way I’m suddenly going to be okay with being forced to consent to someone touching me like it’s not an anxiety thing I literally just do not want to be touched by anyone

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Anonymous OP 76w

I’m not dismissing it at all. I had something very large put up me to look at my reproductive organs three separate times. It wasn’t fun and I did feel violated. But overall it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. The staff should make you feel more comfortable

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Anonymous #91 76w

I’m just rlly getting annoyed that so many people are saying “it’s not that bad” when it’s like yall don’t even know how bad I think it’s gonna be. It feels condescending as fuck to have like a 100 say that and frankly I wasn’t expecting this many people to even see what was supposed to be some offhand moaning about adding another thing to my long list of shitty doctor experiences. Like, it’s going to be shitty ik that cause it’s always shitty that’s it.

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Anonymous OP 76w

I don’t think any of you are trying to be condescending, just to be clear, and I’m not mad with you or any other individual, but also being told “it’s not that bad” 100 times and even having people assume I’m a child does start to feel like I’m being talked down to

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Anonymous OP 76w

Thats valid! You do you boo!

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Anonymous #80 76w

I have cried from the pain every single time I’ve gone 💀

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Anonymous #86 76w

It will only make u anxious when u overthink! It does feel weird, but relaxing is the best way to get thru it:)

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Anonymous #1 76w

SAME

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Anonymous #97 76w

i love him and i’m grateful for him

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Anonymous #101 76w

They’ll have to drag me kicking & screaming if they want me …

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Anonymous OP 76w

When people make comments like your original one, it makes us want to help you automatically because you seem fearful. We only wanted to help calm your nerves, not talk down to you ☺️ you don’t necessarily have to go if you don’t want to as i know how violating it feels!

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Anonymous #62 76w

honestly i’m more terrified of something happening in my body and not knowing ab it (and fun fact you’re supposed to get pelvic exams yearly if you’re on bc) so that’s mostly why

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Anonymous #101 76w

I’m terrified of that as well, I just have vaginismus-like symptoms and a shitton of bottom dysphoria so it’s never fucking happening unfortunately 😭💔

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Anonymous #74 76w

were you expecting to be pregnant or was it just a complete shock? i would die if that happened to me tbh😭

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Anonymous #62 76w

honestly if you walk in there confident, open and honest you will get treated properly and professionally, they don’t care what you look like or what’s going on down there as long as you’re healthy. a lot of gynos can give great advice on vaginismus treatments too!

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Anonymous #101 76w

I’m sure (ok, unsure) that’s the case!! Vaginismus isn’t a concern for me outside of going to the gyno though lmao 😭 I’m worried they’ll try to tell me to fix it when I just want the whole damn thing closed and never to think about it again ❤️ /sorry for venting in the YY comment section. Dear lord this is a new low

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Anonymous #62 76w

if you don’t feel comfortable with making changes, you don’t have to! all they care about is your comfortability and if you have no physical ailments resulting from it they won’t press further!

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Anonymous OP 76w

If u relax it’ll be over before u know it

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Anonymous #16 76w

Same

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Anonymous #107 76w

How does that work?

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Anonymous OP 76w

People aren’t dismissing your discomfort. You posted about being nervous and as people with hearts, everyone is trying to make you feel better by sharing their experiences and reassuring you. No one is talking down to you.

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Anonymous #104 76w

oh my god that is fucking traumatizing as fuck i am so so sorry.

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Anonymous #111 76w

It’s not taking your virginity, it’s for your health. It doesn’t feel like a penis at all

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Anonymous #91 76w

and it’s an intimacy thing, i don’t want the first time someone touches or looks at it to be a doctor

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So could riding a bike, riding a horse, running, etc.

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Anonymous #91 76w

All of those are still different than having something shoved inside you

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Anonymous #111 76w

I know, but you mentioned breaking your hymen

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Anonymous #111 76w

from what i’ve had done they need the speculum so they can take a swab

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Anonymous #94 76w

but if you find a good doctor i promise it’s not as bad as you think!! mine talked me through the entire thing bc i was nervous. like even if she just got closer she vocalized to me that she is going to get closer

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Anonymous #91 76w

i’ve also felt extremely violated by doctors several times before, so it’s just something i am going to avoid until im ready to fully consent to something like that

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Anonymous #91 76w

i broke my hymen doing gymnastics 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous #111 76w

Me too, and I definitely understand that. As long as you do what you need to do for your health, you’ll be fine. Some of this stuff is necessary to protect your health and even detect cancers early.

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Anonymous #91 76w

i’m glad i went to a gyno bc i was able to be diagnosed and get medication for a chronic disease. if i hadn’t gone, i could have lost part of my vulval anatomy so it was important that i went in early and got it caught

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yes! i had an intense itching that would cause the skin of my vulva to break and bleed. at first i thought it was yeast or an std but a pap smear showed that it wasn’t that. i kept going back and had to get a biopsy and turns out it’s a chronic condition called lichen sclerosus, which can have very damaging effects on the vulva if not treated

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Anonymous #94 76w

the condition can cause ur inner labia to like reabsorbed into your skin and make you vaginal opening/canal much smaller. it also causes white patches of skin and can lead to scarring 😭 but it’s very rare

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Anonymous #111 76w

Request a smaller speculum if you want!!

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Anonymous #111 76w

Hey im a virgin too and was so scared to go and was not sure what to expect!! Just tell the doctor your anxieties beforehand! The only reason I went is because im getting married and you have to go to get birth control

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Anonymous #89 76w

…I got birth control from my primary care with no issues? 😶

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Anonymous #1 76w

sexually active **

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Anonymous #35 76w

Nooo. But I do make sure I’m clean down there!

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Anonymous #116 76w

not to mention health is way more important than being afraid to get a check up

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Anonymous #89 76w

I get mine from pill club (I think it has a different name now) but it’s free w my insurance, and I get 12 generic plan B pills every year. I don’t use them, but someone else might! But either way no appointment necessary, a gyno assesses you online based on a questionnaire and prescribes the most appropriate kind of pill. They also stock me up so no worries of a late refill

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Anonymous #4 76w

I get you, I was terrified of the exact same thing. Best way to get past it is just to do it the once, and after that it’s much easier. I promise all the things your brain is telling you they’ll think/say aren’t real. I was absolutely mortified before and now it’s just another doctors appointment

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Anonymous #115 76w

not true. I’m a virgin they prescribed me birth control for hormonal swings all I needed was a piss test

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Anonymous #115 76w

Yes you absolutely can get bc without a pap. I did a few years ago when I was a virgin.

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Anonymous #91 76w

i told my gyno i had heavy periods at 14 and she put me on the pill no questions asked and no required tests!

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Anonymous #109 76w

she pretty much just asks if i’m having any issues with my bc and sometimes feels for lumps but im always in and out within 15 mins

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Anonymous OP 76w

I absolutely understand this, I feel the same way. For me, part of it is definitely the pain part but a big part of it is also that there’s only one other person in my life who I’d let down there that isn’t me! It’s just a super private area, I don’t wanna stranger all up in my shit! I absolutely understand how you feel and I wish there was a way I could help you. Unfortunately, I think this is just a situation we’ll have to figure out how to handle on our own.

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Anonymous #96 76w

sameeee

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Anonymous #10 76w

I was gonna say the same lmao😭first??? I saw a gyno for the first time at 13 (had my first ultrasound then), and had my first pap smear at 15 or 16 y/o (my mom made me). I got over the uncomfortableness as soon as I remembered to remind myself this is their job as doctors, now I OVERSHARE w them. I have a pic of my own cervix I made my doc take at my last pap!

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Anonymous #133 76w

…please tell me you use this whenever asked to send nudes.

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Anonymous #96 76w

HAHAHA I haven’t actually bc you can lowkey tell I’m being stretched open by their contraptions and I feel like that would make it way worse, still so hilarious tho I should think of that next time

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Anonymous #133 76w

If we got the same kind of ultrasound it is actually the worst 🥲 I got one when I was having pain in my pelvic region (it was cysts bursting from PCOS but I didn’t know that), and I had to have a full bladder while they stuck a wand larger than most dicks inside me for SO long. It was freezing cold too. The gyno was so chill though which made it better

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Anonymous #136 76w

Recommended at 21

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Anonymous #136 76w

If you’re a virgin you don’t need to do it until 25, but I’ve had paps since 15 almost 16, and they have recently lowered the age down to 21 recommended just to lower the risk of cervical cancer going unnoticed until a first pap

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Anonymous #137 76w

When is your birthday? Mines the 10th!

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Anonymous #139 76w

Usually your first pap smear is when you’re 21. Usually gynecologist appts before that are only for if you have a specific issue

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Anonymous #3 76w

Wait wait wait, deadass?? That sounds too good to be true

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Anonymous #111 76w

thank you yeah i haven’t been back since (im 22 now) bc of that event :(

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Anonymous #105 76w

Misdiagnosed??? That’s horrifying

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Anonymous #104 76w

im sorry thats actually fucking terrible i hope ur doing okay

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Anonymous #125 76w

they're 20

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Anonymous #4 76w

I’d rather die 💖

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Anonymous #102 75w

It was legit a complete shock. My first time. My mom was there and the baby was legit 4 weeks along. It was literally a pea size. They said are you sexually active and I said yes. And they said well we need you to pee in a cup. I think I see a gestational sac. And I said whattttt. And the lady said I’m pretty sure you’re pregnant. I was shaking🤦🏼‍♀️😂 all is good!! It’s a boyyyy

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Anonymous #142 71w

GIRL- how long were u scrolling😭

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Anonymous #1 71w

RIGHT 😭 this was the last post i expected to see when i clicked on that notification lmaooo

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Anonymous #143 50w

😭😭😭yall r insane posting on a thread from 25 weeks ago

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Anonymous #143 50w

when ur 21 or first start being sexually active is ur answer tho

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