Anonymous #1 1w

Real talk though: Stepping up is a noble action and it’s what SHOULD happen. But, realistically, I think most guys understand now that doing so is an incident waiting to happen. If I don’t know the girl, I don’t know her dynamic with that other man. I don’t know if he’s got a gun, if he’s got a knife, if he can fight, if he’s gonna rush at me, or what’s going to happen. That’s a lot to risk for a complete stranger.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeah it definitely is. I’m never gonna demand anyone do anything and I understand why a lot of people wouldn’t—not even all women or gay men do. But the fact so many gay men and women are willing to even while experiencing those same risks if not MORE while so many straight men don’t says a lot.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Gay men and women could see themselves being on the receiving end of that situation or have been themselves so they’ll risk it to help like they’d want someone to for them. A lot of straight men don’t see that happening to them so it’s not worth the risk as long as it’s not anyone they love in direct danger.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I would agree with your thinking on that. For me, if I don’t know you and/or don’t have a claim to you then I’m much more likely to stay in my lane. I’m not looking to be anybody’s hero. It sucks, but it’s about not putting myself in positions where I’m likely to be hurt. I’m too self-preservant for that. At the end of the day, I’m gonna make sure I get home unscathed.

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Anonymous #1 1w

At least you can own up to that instead of blaming random women who aren’t involved in the situation to justify it. (That’s not a dig btw I mean that. If more people could be honest like that we probably wouldn’t have some of the issues we have.)

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