Anonymous #5 10w

Well I’ve been in love and sex is about passion

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Anonymous OP 10w

And play

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Anonymous OP 10w

Yknow passion and aggression is still vanilla. Rough sex probably came before calm sex

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Anonymous #5 10w

I’m saying with kinks kinks still has a place in passion

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Anonymous OP 10w

Kinks are subjective to every individual. Example: You probably don’t like Furry play, but someone else could be confused how you don’t, and now you would be in my shoes🙆🏾‍♂️ on this topic

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Anonymous #5 10w

That doesn’t mean it’s not love

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Anonymous OP 10w

Kinks are literally only tied to arousal. They are detached from “Love” as you are thinking

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Anonymous #5 10w

They aren’t detached from love. Love is still apart of the sex if you love the other. They can be seen as actions of love

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Anonymous OP 10w

Sex is an extension of Love (which isn’t always the case) but kinks are definitely not an extension of Love. Objectively they are just muses of arousal. If you piss on someone to get off n leave the room, there was no love🫩 your appetite was fed is all

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Anonymous #5 10w

That’s incorrect there can be love in kinks how do you know there isn’t?

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Anonymous OP 10w

There’s care behind everything

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Anonymous OP 10w

Potentially

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Anonymous OP 10w

That isn’t incorrect. See how you said there “can” be love in kinks. Kinks OBJECTIVELY hold NO Inherent love. They are just things that get you more aroused than traditional triggers. Love and kinks can mix, but Kinks Do Not Equal Love

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Anonymous OP 10w

I loved a man I’ve called daddy

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Anonymous #5 10w

It’s just how sex does not equal love but kinks can be extensions

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Anonymous OP 10w

You know lust outside of love exists right? Yknow what most men do on a daily basis and are rightfully condemned for?

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Anonymous OP 10w

That is highly irrelevant to this convo🙂 That’s barely a kink now, just falls under dirty talk

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Anonymous #5 10w

Oh you’re the religious type

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Anonymous OP 10w

Makes more sense now

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Anonymous OP 10w

And saying daddy is a kink

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Anonymous OP 10w

It all makes sense now..

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It is a good one

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Anonymous OP 10w

I believe in god but I would say I’m religious by any means😭 you’ll be surprised by how much useful wisdom comes from religious teachings tho. This is from my own discernment btw

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Anonymous OP 10w

Pretty sure a kink has to be something that deviates from the norm. Damn near Everybody be saying daddy. Doesn’t mean everybody has a kink

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Anonymous #5 10w

It’s still called a kink

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Anonymous OP 10w

Sure man. It’s a kink 🫩

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Anonymous #5 10w

I think what matters isn’t whether kinks = love or anything like that. What matters is sexual compatibility. In OP’s case, he or she is pretty kinky, so the way their partner would express their love during sex is through being similarly kinky. But others align more with slower, more deliberate sex, so they say they give/receive love is through passionate lovemaking instead. There’s no hard-and-fast rule except “be compatible.”

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