Bit of both. Work on thinking about why those behaviors make you feel the way you do to the point to feel the need to “run away” or leave bc of the perceived threat of abandonment from them. Parents/grandparents/important figures in your life had poor marriages? You weren’t treated the best by these figures? Too much soap opera watching made you feel this one thing would turn into a drama storm? Did it once with a bad hs bf and now it’s just a self fulfilling prophecy?