Confessions on Yik Yak | Maybe I’m being too fucking clingy, but I’m getting annoyed that he only texts when he wants to text, otherwise the responses are dry. For someone who tells me “You can always call/text me” but doesn’t give that same energy back is infuriating.

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Confessions 16w

Maybe I’m being too fucking clingy, but I’m getting annoyed that he only texts when he wants to text, otherwise the responses are dry. For someone who tells me “You can always call/text me” but doesn’t give that same energy back is infuriating.

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Anonymous 16w

Don’t exist in a relationship that function on their time only. It should be an equal give and take, not hungrily grasping at bread crumbs when they happen to spill. Respect yourself enough to get what you need to be happy while finding someone you can give it back to.

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Anonymous 16w

you’re exactly right tho

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Anonymous 16w

Same but I like him too much to just let it go 😭

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Anonymous 16w

i had this problem with my boyfriend for forever and we just broke up, if he keeps doing that and continues to not put in effort even when you ask then its time to leave

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Anonymous 16w

Texting is an extremely unnatural way to carry out a conversation. By having an ongoing broken stream of messages over hours and hours of time, it can be difficult for some people to make the mental switch from whatever they are focusing on outside of their phone to the conversation. For me, the walking definition of ADHD, I have a really hard time making that focus switch every few minutes for days at a time. I much prefer to call since it’s something I can fully focus on at once.

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Anonymous 16w

are you dating?

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Anonymous 16w

Ya but is he busy tho

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Anonymous 16w

It sounds like you shouldnt be in a relationship

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Anonymous 16w

Then text that person back and see what’s up why there not responding

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Anonymous 16w

im in the same position

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Anonymous 16w

this is too fucking real.

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Anonymous 16w

Why are girls like this, sometimes we just don’t wanna talk.

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Anonymous 16w

This stuff frustrates me to high hell because if I was in a relationship (single for 8 years) i'd be so ready to put in effort but i'm only seen as a hookup 90% of the time, and when i'm not, I don't like the person back enough to date them 😭

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Anonymous 16w

start giving him the same energy. most of the time when they realize you are giving less energy and pulling back they start picking up the slack bc they don't want to loose you.

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Anonymous 16w

As someone once told me "it's not for you to decide whether or not I should reply." Coming from experience

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Anonymous 16w

Wow someone else’s day doesn’t revolve around asking “wyd” every 5 minutes…get a grip and grow up

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#2 16w

My issue exactly lol

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Anonymous 16w

Ayo what?

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#7 16w

I’ve given up on calling. I’m always calling him and it feels like I’m the only one yapping. He says “I love listening to your voice, it’s soothing” and I just want someone to talk to so I don’t have to be so fucking anxious that I’m talking their ear off and to know they are actually listening. I figured if I text, I’m more likely to get a response.

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OP 16w

That’s fair, I think forcing either is hard. Maybe have a conversation and try to find a compromise, if he gives conscious effort to be more present, and you give conscious effort to be understanding that maybe he’s not doing it out of a disinterest but instead a difficulty with multitasking, it can’t do anything but help. If you’re scared of having that conversation, you need to become ok with being fully open to your partner.

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OP 16w

You just described me perfectly

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Anonymous 16w

😭😭💀

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#11 16w

That’s literally not what I meant.

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OP 16w

Please explain

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#11 16w

I’m saying generally, for someone who tells me they love me and wants me in their life, I would at least like to be able to talk to you. But it’s only when he’s available and there’s no consideration for me. I’m going out of my way to attempt to call or text him and he only really responds when he wants to. Dude literally told me once “I don’t really call people like that”. Like damn, I didn’t think I was just anybody since you aren’t just anybody to me but ok.

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OP 16w

That’s how guys work. We are busy, constant thoughts running through our head, Etc. If he doesn’t like to talk otp then he probably just doesn’t like to do that, nothing against you or anything. Tell him these things instead of going to yak. And if he makes an effort at all at least that’s something.

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#11 16w

This is genuinely a good perspective and you’re getting hated. There’s no more conversation anymore it’s always “let me go to this online forum of strangers and ask them what I should do instead of talking with my partner” a lack of communication will kill a relationship. Maybe give him a chance to give an explanation??

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#11 16w

No because in my experience if a guy didn’t make the effort to talk and spend time they just genuinely don’t like you. A guy can be busy af but if he actually loves you he will try his absolute hardest to make time to actually hold a conversation

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OP 16w

I think if he says he loves listening to your voice because he finds it soothing, you’re unlikely to talk his ear off, but I understand feeling anxious regardless

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Anonymous 16w

Huhhhhh 😭

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