I asked if she’d like to start going on runs with me and to the gym with me. I run a 5k a everyday and go to the gym every day and she said no

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Terrible idea, women aren’t stupid she’s gonna know what you’re doing 😭

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Anonymous #8 20h

This^ like she could be struggling so motivate her with kindness and compassion. Start with her mind and then suggest working out together

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Anonymous #3 20h

Exactly, she could be going through more than she lets on. She’s probably not comfortable sharing if this is how he talks about her online!

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Anonymous #4 20h

How could her body possibly make him feel like shit? Yall are shallow asf

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Anonymous #8 20h

No I mean her body being large will make her feel like shit. Doesn’t matter what the guy thinks

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Anonymous #4 20h

Agreed, she probably feels bad enough as is :/

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Anonymous #8 20h

for real. He’s def an asshole and not a man at all. My man is able to be sweet and lmk around the holidays and I feel happy and loved so it’s an easy fix

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You have no idea what her current diet looks like, why are we making assumptions?

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Your right she also needs to hit the gym and stop being lazy

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Anonymous #7 19h

Hormone and metabolic disorders exist buddy 🤡

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Anonymous #7 19h

Another blind assumption LMAO you literally know nothing about this person or their health!!

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Anonymous #7 19h

Enough is enough

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Anonymous #7 19h

Ew

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Anonymous #7 19h

“Enough is enough” is wild in response to WEIGHT GAIN😭

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Anonymous #6 19h

Right??? Like how much to you hate your gf

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Anonymous #8 19h

Genuinely, it baffles me. People are so, so shallow nowadays.

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Anonymous OP 17h

those are likely not her preferred forms of exercise. if you’re looking to encourage her, you may want to try and figure out what activities she would be interested in. she might be more receptive to walking, hiking, biking, roller blading, swimming, dancing, jumping on a trampoline, playing basketball, kayaking or anything else you can think of. cause running a 5k and going to the gym lowkey sounds torturous to me💀 you should explore new activities w her and make it fun

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Anonymous #14 17h

also remember exercise should be about overall health and wellness, not appearance. if she suddenly became less active and had a rapid weight gain, i understand being concerned for her physical and mental health. if it’s strictly an appearance thing for you, then you prob don’t love her as much as you think

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Why specifically a black guy? That’s kinda weird that you would say that.

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Anonymous #6 16h

30 pounds in a year isn’t exactly normal tbh

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Anonymous OP 16h

It’s 100% normal, I think you’re just into women who starve themselves tbh

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Anonymous #8 16h

It’s not starving yourself to be a healthy weight

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Anonymous #2 16h

I mean she couldn’t not be

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Anonymous OP 16h

What is a “healthy weight” to you? Everyone’s body is different

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Anonymous #6 16h

It’s not shallow to want to find your partner physically attractive.

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Anonymous OP 16h

It’s shallow to complain about normal body changes. You’re just proving to us more and more than you’re not a good partner

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Anonymous #8 16h

I treat her great actually.

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Anonymous OP 16h

Talking shit about your gf’s body is not treating her great

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Anonymous #8 16h

Am I not allowed to be worried about her health?

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Anonymous OP 16h

Have you talked to her about her health? Looked at her numbers on a blood test?

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Anonymous OP 16h

If you lost attraction due to a little gained weight, I’d argue it is extremely shallow. She’s your PARTNER. This is life, bodies are going to change. Humans gain weight, lose weight, sag, etc. throughout the course of our lives. This is just the way life works. Get used to it and grow up.

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Anonymous OP 16h

If all her blood tests come back normal then what’s the problem? Your definition of healthy may not be someone else’s definition of healthy

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Anonymous #6 16h

I think humans only get fat if you stop taking care of yourself.

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Anonymous OP 16h

Open up a biology book bc your opinion is incorrect and your mindset is harmful

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Anonymous #8 16h

Well the average human’s metabolism remains pretty stable from 20 to 60.

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Anonymous OP 16h

You may think that’s true, but it’s not. I’d love for it to be that easy. Things like hormone issues and environmental stressors can cause unusual weight gain, not necessarily personal inaction. If you’re genuinely worried about her health, I’d suggest doing some research and providing her empathy through this. Encourage her to get a blood test to check her levels, if you’re that worried.

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Anonymous #8 16h

Bro there’s no one that’s obese and a healthy weight

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Anonymous OP 16h

You seem really concerned about your attraction to her physically, but this probably isn’t easy on her either. Support your partner.

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Anonymous OP 16h

It starts to decline around 30 actually

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Anonymous #6 16h

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/surprising-findings-about-metabolism-and-age-202110082613

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Anonymous #8 16h

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/surprising-findings-about-metabolism-and-age-202110082613

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Anonymous #6 16h

I gave you an article and a study proving that from 20 to 60 it actually doesn’t. So like what now?

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Anonymous OP 15h

You’re responding to the wrong person, I have no clue about metabolism tbh, I have to do more research! But there’s a lot of reasons why weight gain/loss can happen though. Hormonal issues, stress, mental health issues, life changes, etc. If you’re really that concerned, go with her to get her blood checked. But I have a feeling that this is more about your attraction to her than actually being concerned about her health, seeing as you’re continuing to argue instead of being empathetic to ur gf.

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