Anonymous #2 16w

i was nervous! 😫😭 plus idk if she feels the same way so

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Anonymous OP 16w

If you felt the need to say that maybe she does?

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Anonymous #3 16w

it genuinely seemed like she was hinting at it

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Anonymous OP 16w

Oh?

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Anonymous #3 16w

Now I’m intrigued 👩‍🏫

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Anonymous #3 16w

well we started talking about how we both really crave intimacy and really wanna be in a relationship. and she was like “i wonder if there’s a solution to this… 🤔” and i just never answered that part. but when i asked her (before this convo) if she’d put herself out there since she wants a relationship, she said no bc she has a lot on her plate and doesn’t wanna add another person. we also talked about how our friendship is so involved that neither of us could really maintain any other

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Anonymous OP 16w

relationship. and honestly, now that i’m typing this out loud, it definitely seems like that convo was going somewhere but after i said what i said, it kinda fizzled out. the context of my statement btw was “i don’t wanna further our relationship but sometimes when you come to me about certain things, i wanna respond the way a gf would. but we’re friends so i don’t say anything.” this was after i confessed to her that i have a tendency confuse the love i have for friends for romantic feelings

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Anonymous OP 16w

and i wasn’t trying to put that on her. but tbh, this feels sm different idk. like i genuinely love everything about her 💔

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Anonymous OP 16w

I get that, now there’s too many feelings coming from your end to get involved in a harmless fling and have it truly be harmless, maybe that’s all she’s interested in, which is perfectly fine. If you feel the need to protect yourself with distance that’s also fine, although the thing about love and relationships is they rarely ever come at the “ideal” time. If this is something you’re truly wanting, you have to be honest with her.

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Anonymous #3 16w

Every crush feels like the most intense affection you’ve ever had for anyone, it’s easy to trick yourself into believing that, trust me I get it. Maybe there is a chance that this time it could be for real, you just have to believe in yourself and have the courage to put everything out there.

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Anonymous #3 16w

you’re so right. and you’re so kind. i really appreciate this advice 🥲 it’s definitely easier said than done but hopefully someday i’ll have the courage to actually tell her how i feel. i’m just not sure when that’ll be yet. but maybe if there’s progress, i’ll report back and lyk how it goes. iydm

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Anonymous OP 16w

Of course! So true, Ive completely self-sabotaged before in these types of situations, told myself so many things to shake my confidence, that’s an issue everyone has because it’s a lot easier than being honest and taking accountability for your emotions. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by those thoughts, I hope you find it in yourself and I look forward to hearing what happens!

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