It’s not like you just get the court order and then boom it’s happily ever after because unless they were adopted as babies that usually comes with trauma and pain. (Which again, is why I feel so guilty because Ik what I’m thinking about is nothing compared to that). But I went from a normal and happy childhood to living with someone with bipolar disorder, being constantly worried and stressed for my siblings, trying to play peacemaker in my house and also at school for them when issues arised.

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Your trauma is valid no matter how better or worse it is. It’s okay to feel their choice was bad, but you need to recognize they had good intentions and didn’t mean for your childhood to be ruined. I know about foster care and adoption, because I have a friend who had bad experiences. It’s difficult for everyone, so I understand how you feel.

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I understand. My parents adopted three of my cousins when I was just graduating high school and going home is so hard to see a life I don’t recognize. They truly feel like harsh replacements and I have this believed that my mom is just trying to prove something. I love those kids so much but it’s so hard knowing that I had no say on their adoption and I feel like my parents just don’t care what I have to say anymore.

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