Anonymous #2 16w

No we were talking, but I clearly fell for her bullshit and her saying she’s so “insecure” and hates herself. Only for me to fill her up with all the good compliments she wanted to hear so she could continue hoeing

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Fucking fr bro! Every woman wants to talk about how men suck yet you never hear us complaining about how women suck, and how they try to excuse and rationalize shitty whore behavior. But if we do any of the same things they do then we burn in hell

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Anonymous OP 16w

It’s not shitty behavior. I know it hurts OP, but if you guys never communicated about this then she’s free to do what she wants

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Anonymous #5 16w

We did communicate. We spent time FaceTiming for hours and texting… we talked and talked and talked. It’s irrational period

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Anonymous OP 16w

Ok yeah I get you that makes it seem like she was really into you. I would still encourage you, and her too obviously, to communicate what you want out of your relationship, but that sucks I’m sorry

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Anonymous #4 16w

Having to have a convo with the person you’re talking to about not fucking 2 other ppl at the same time 💀

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Anonymous #6 16w

I was about to say. You shouldn’t need to have a conversation like that in a relationship, regardless of what the culture is.

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Anonymous #7 16w

I don’t disagree w you but hookups and ghosting is the thing right now and it’s harder to find someone that’s not doing it than someone who is

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Anonymous #7 16w

Depends on where the relationship is it to me. Like if you’re just talking or went on 1 a couple dates I think it’s kinda silly to assume exclusivity. But either way, there’s never harm in communicating. If you want to be exclusive, and say that and then they also want exclusive then that’s great! It helps to filter out people who don’t want the same things

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Anonymous #5 16w

From what OP said about it and how much they were talking, I get how he feels about it though

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Anonymous #5 16w

i’m so confused on if they agreed to be exclusive or not???

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Anonymous #10 16w

OP has just said they were talking consistently, no confirmation of being exclusive

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Anonymous #4 16w

i think it’s a lot of gray area until we know for sure that they were supposed to be exclusively having sex with each other, personally, and i say that as a man

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Anonymous #10 16w

I agree. I’ve been in fwbs where I don’t hu with other people because it’s a personal thing, but I always express that and the other person usually doesn’t hu with others then too

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Anonymous #4 16w

yep, you gotta communicate, always!

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Anonymous #11 16w

asking if they were exclusive is a reasonable ass question when the post is vague about their relationship status.

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Anonymous OP 16w

This isn’t meant to excuse the behavior, but I will say that a lot of women who are insecure and hate themselves will try to find solace in sex. They feel like their only worth comes from what their bodies can provide. It doesn’t matter how many compliments you throw out, she will think you’re just saying it to be nice. I don’t think she’s right to be messing around while yall are talking, but that might be a reason. Be honest with her about your intentions to be in a real relationship.

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Anonymous OP 16w

if you were talking and didn’t state that you were exclusive then that’s definitely a conversation y’all should’ve had 😭. even with my fwb we’ve had the talk of exclusivity for health reasons. if you didn’t have that conversation then she was free to do what she wanted, i understand why it still hurts though. and my opinion would be the same if it was a guy, we’re adults and communication is important!

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Anonymous #2 16w

Bro’s acting like as if this doesn’t happen to both parties. It’s an exhausting convo but the reality is that if you’re not dating, the other person most likely won’t owe you any loyalty. This shit happens to men and women, tired of this circled ass argument

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Anonymous #12 16w

To all the people who ho asked if we were exclusive or did we communicate about it, yes. We communicated about being exclusive and the idea of us talking was to be in a relationship. She gave me no indication that she didn’t like or wanted to be with me during the time we talked yet when I asked her why, she said “it was awkward the entire time.” when she pretended to be excited to go on dates with me. Yet she gets to move on and be a whore.

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Anonymous OP 16w

But you don’t get to generalize and blame other women because of what she did. When some guys do just the same? It’s a shitty situation but you need to work on controlling your emotions, healing, and moving on lmao. I promise you you’re not the first person to ever go through this, and maybe you just wanted somewhere to vent, but stop generalizing. None of this is even going to matter to you in the next few months, or when you actually meet your person. But for now, stop blaming everyone.

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