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I think I might be lesbian but I’ve been with a guy for multiple years… any advice??
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Anonymous 6d

hi! lesbian here~ i was in a similar situation a few years ago and what helped me come to terms with my identity was that i always questioned if i would want a future with the man i was dating and always had mixed feelings when discussing future plans. after breaking up and dating a girl for a while, i never once doubted that in the future i would want to marry and be with a woman. just from my experience, if you are questioning if you are attracted to him or not, that’s usually a sign

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Anonymous 6d

Pansexual girl here. I know how you feel. There has been so many times where I’ve questioned my sexuality and felt guilty for being with a man as a closeted lgbtq, even though I never really knew what I was. I’ve been in denial for so long and wanted to feel normal. Please do not make yourself suffer or deny yourself happiness. The question is, do you love him and just not in the way you thought you did? That happened to my friend who left her boyfriend because she was a lesbian. It’s hard.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

You still love him. Just not like that. And even just having doubts confirms that. You don’t have to tell him about your sexuality if you don’t feel comfortable but I would break things off when you can. It’s a tough thing to do but you’re probably going to feel better the moment you do.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6d

everyone experiences love and attraction differently though! what you are feeling is valid and it is never too late to figure out your sexuality and what you want!

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