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Just had a person in our group (31F) make a 15 page “exposing” doc about our DM (19F) because she thought our DM was gaslighting and manipulating her. Our DM was just playing a BBEG and ig she took that out of character. Is this normal or crazy?
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Anonymous 1d

That’s pretty crazy for a 31 y/o to beef with a 19 y/o and write 15 pages about her. Was the dm only acting that way as the bbeg or outside of the character, is my question.

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Anonymous 1d

Well that just sounds terrible… eh, my friend?

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Anonymous 1d

Sounds like a lot of misinterpreted and maybe some boundaries got crossed. It’s best everyone just has an adult conversation and figures out what went wrong and why the person (31F) went ballistic.

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Anonymous 9h

What in the BPD

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Like, are some of the things she wrote down legit or reading too much into things?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Just in character thankfully. That player constantly had to be reassured that we didn’t hate her or her character. It became really tedious as you couldn’t do anything to her character without her freaking out. Like my bard and her character once had a fight about morals and she got mad at me irl

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

O-kay… that is a little weird. She might be (probably is) insecure, and taking character stuff as personal attacks. When I play with my party, we fight in-character all the time (one of us even betrayed the group) and we know that it’s just character shit. It’s fun to have moral fights in-character. I think everyone in the group needs to have one big talk to even this out

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Unfortunately she blocked us all and had her boyfriend send me a message about how she was actually better off without us. I really would love to have an adult conversation with her because this situation got out of hand extremely fast but she has started talking shit about us irl to friends of the group. I’m at a loss of what to do honestly

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Wow that’s kinda insane if I’m being honest. Unfortunately it maybe best to cut your losses and try and move on, Ik that sucks. I’m sorry y’all had to go through all that!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

If I can also ask, how long have yall been playing/have yall known each other?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

She has blocked us and refuses to take the doc down (she posted it publicly to her discord). It’s giving me flashbacks of 2020 group chats. Our DM tried reaching out and apologizing but the player didn’t respond

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Wait what???? Damn, that girl isn’t ready to play dnd. Maybe once she figures out herself and learns to handle her insecurities she can rejoin, but don’t interact with her until then. It will just get worse if you try anything

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

We played together for 6 months ish. We all would have checkup sessions with our DM to make sure the story was going how we wanted as players, but she never wanted to do them for some reason

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Just let her be. Don’t respond to the doc she made, just literally don’t do anything with her or about her. Just keep on moving.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Agreed!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah. Really I feel bad for our DM. We had to miss a couple sessions because they were busy with college and I think that’s what set the player off. Also her best friend in the group started becoming friends with the DM and we think she got jealous. The DM is super understanding, and actually offered to not be friends with the other player as to not get in the way of their friendship. But I think her insecurities got a hold of her nonetheless

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

So she would take everything personally, not communicate with session planning, need constant reassurance, then write 15 pages about one person and block everyone? This could be a DND horror story

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I feel bad for your DM too sounds like a horrible situation to be in for her and everyone involved. I’m just glad that it’ll be sorted out soon and you guys and move on and get back to rolling math rocks!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Yeahhhh. Her character was also a vessel of a god (something she decided without consent of the DM), she wanted her character to cheat on another player’s character without telling that player, and kept rules lawyering the DM with 5e rules when we were playing 5.5e. There was a lot of other stuff going on with her. I just can’t believe she make a doc against a girl 10+ years younger than her instead of talking things out

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Me too 🫡 thankfully the rest of our group is still together

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

That’s great!! Super happy that you guys are staying together!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

😊Indeed, my friend. Rather wild

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