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Family Rants 1w
Should I cut off my mom? - used to be mentally abusive - doesn’t contact me AT ALL and when she wants to, she does it through my sister. She has my # and isn’t blocked - I have to ALWAYS call her. It feel like I’m putting in all the work ….
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Anonymous 1w

Tbh it sounds like she’s already cut you off? Like, if you didn’t reach out, there would be no communication between the two of you. That doesn’t sound like a loving and healthy mother-child relationship

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Anonymous 1w

- ALWAYS makes herself the victim - insecure - is the PRIME reason I went out of state to college - Overly moody and would take her anger out on my as a kid She does do nice things for me but I don’t think they outweighs the back. I also don’t really want a relationship with her

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Anonymous 1w

If you can be financially independent from her/your family then yes

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Anonymous 1w

Honestly in this situation I’d probably just stop putting the effort into reaching out to her, visiting her, etc. As long as you can financially support yourself, it doesn’t matter what she’ll think. It sounds like she already is cutting you off, so I would just let her and ignore her

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Anonymous 1w

it depends, do you want to be no contact with her ever again? if you don’t want to, i’d say just go for it. if not you could just stop reaching out and let it dwindle on its own. i had a similar situation and moving across country for college completely changed the relationship over time

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

She doesn’t provide any financial help but has in the past

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I just don’t want it fight for a relationship that she doesn’t want to fight for. Also, everytime I visit, she has not reached out to me after I tell her the dates I return and when I actually arrive

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I mean it kinda sounds like u guys are already super low contact, it’s just if you go full no contact you may not be able to get any help from her if you have an emergency

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

to avoid drama i would suggest just stop reaching out and initiating convo, that way she can’t use anything against you on you or your family members from “blocking” her and whatnot and if ever needed you still have that line available

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

The only thing is I would only go complete NC only if you will never need her financial help again and you’re okay with that. In your situation, considering that she doesn’t reach out to you anyway, it wouldn’t be much different in practice, so personally I’d only go NC if she flips and decides to come back into your life to make you miserable

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