Family Rants on Yik Yak | My mom says I had a good summer so I don’t need therapy now bc I don’t need to “bring that stuff up again”… I hate this. She’s all about avoidance. I just want a mom I can talk to and who actually cares what’s going on bc I’m crying every night…

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My mom says I had a good summer so I don’t need therapy now bc I don’t need to “bring that stuff up again”… I hate this. She’s all about avoidance. I just want a mom I can talk to and who actually cares what’s going on bc I’m crying every night…

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Anonymous 5w

You should drink a beer or go for a run always helps

Anonymous 5w

yeah don’t listen to her, that’s not healthy and it’s actually just suppressing your feelings and teaching you to not be open with how you feel!

Anonymous 5w

Skip therapy, move out, get a job, then go back to therapy when YOU can afford it. You’re too dependent on your mom. I didnt have parents and I had to learn healing on my own. No thanks to no one. Take control of your own life.

Anonymous 5w

Ugh, my mom my whole life kept telling me I needed to “learn how to let things go” when I was never allowed to process any of those things or get any sense of closure. Which led me to shove everything down, and filled me with self-hatred bc I couldn’t just “forget about it”. I had to go to other people for support, like aunts, cousins, sometimes friends. Tho therapy has helped the most.

Anonymous 5w

I hear that. But don’t forget that therapy is expensive and your parents are their own people. Yes they should support you, but they don’t owe you an endless source of giving. You should respect their wishes (when reasonable). And if you disagree with them and think you need therapy, then you should own that goal in your own right, and not rely on them to get that to you. You will be a more complete person for it.

Anonymous 5w

Tell her shes to shut up, that she doesn’t know what shes talking about, hold eye contact and let her respond. Then just hone in she’s ignorant and clueless and let the topic end there rather than her dominating it. Even add a positive feedback like “your opposition just validates my need further”

Anonymous 5w

Well how about this, have a conversation with her. Tell her you are scared your going to be bringing up these things again if you don’t go to therapy. Mention that you don’t want to cause her pain. That is why you need to go so you can be a functional child and person. That she can be proud of, and that your probably going to slip into old habits if you don’t get help.

Anonymous 5w

The point in what I am saying is to sway her to your favor with some valid but factious points. I have a feeling she doesn’t deal well with guilt, but perhaps putting her in a position where letting you go to therapy is a way to earn her a badge of honor. And make up for that guilt may be a step in the right direction. If you decided to try this tell me how it goes.

Anonymous 5w

Respectfully, you have a problem here, and it’s not your parents. I totally hear you need therapy - we all do. But the first thing you will probably realize in therapy is that you are your best friend, your worst critic. Only you can take responsibility and blame for how you choose to behave, even in the face of adversity. You need to choose who to be. Therapy can help, but you can also start choosing who to be right now. I suggest starting with mindfulness and/or breathing exercises.

Anonymous 5w

stop wanting that or expecting that to happen... at some point uneed to accept the fact that this is her. why do u want to talk to her anyways? she won't help. and how old r u?

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Anonymous

#1 5w

Two beers skip the run

Anonymous

#2 5w

Just drink the whole case honeslty

Anonymous

#1 5w

and still skip the run

Anonymous

#3 5w

The thing that sucks is that I literally cannot pay for it on my own. I don’t make the money to do that and I’m on their insurance. I’m having to pack for college right now and just doing a task like that is so overwhelming for me that I’m almost crying and yet they don’t think I need therapy.

Anonymous

OP 5w

if you’re 18 look into therapy at your college!! mine offers free counseling that i’ve gone to that’s included in tuition. they legally cannot let your parents know what servicing you’re getting!!

Anonymous

#3 5w

I have tried that and it just really was not effective for me whatsoever. They are not the best at their job I’m afraid.

Anonymous

#6 5w

I’m not able to pay for an apartment. I’m in college and I really can’t get the hours to do that.

Anonymous

OP 5w

I can only really pay for the school housing and then once college is over I don’t have the money to pay for an off-campus apartment and I don’t qualify for summer living

Anonymous

#7 5w

No the parent definitely is being problematic too. Your parents should be there for you. You shouldn’t have to struggle silently and alone bc they aren’t willing to hear your troubles. Of course OP probably needs therapy, most people do. But don’t undermine how hurtful it is for a parent to not care about what you’re going through.

Anonymous

OP 5w

sweeite you are 18... and can find therapy that their insurance covers or get ur own insurance. i can't help, ur an adult i thought this was more of a child post. either take therapy at school, it's shit, find someone on line ur parents cover, or get different insurance.

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Anonymous

OP 5w

can i ask what college ur at? public, private, community. paying for school housing is not the move.

Anonymous

#8 5w

I’m 21, I just wish I had a mom who was there when I really needed her especially in high school. I was in a really abusive relationship and I would always try to talk to her about it, but she would just push me away.

Anonymous

#7 5w

I’ve been needing therapy since I was in high school though and they only let me do it for a few months this year. I’m 21. I straight up cannot pay for the therapy myself and the only reason that they’ve allowed me to do any at all is because I had a full on mental breakdown

Anonymous

OP 5w

I suspect they only did it to get me better enough to not ruin their appearance

Anonymous

#8 5w

Is a private school but I’m only there because it was the only one I could afford. I got a scholarship with them. Without the scholarship, I wouldn’t be able to go to college at all, but it doesn’t cover all of the cost.

Anonymous

OP 5w

And does it really matter my age right now? Nobody should feel abandoned by their parents at any age.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Then ruin their appearance. Cut them off. Live with an auntie. Like I said, I didn’t grow up living with parents. And the unfounded need to stay and deal with your parents’ abuse because “she’s my mom” dude fuck that, leave that hoe fr. Get over urself and get out. Simple. She’s never going to own up to anything if she hasn’t already done so. You have to make a drastic change for yourself because nobody else will.

Anonymous

OP 5w

When I had no access to therapy I would text or call hotlines when I was breaking down or if I was extremely lonely. Now that I have a job I can afford therapy and I found a psych. I hope you’re able to get what you need once you graduate and become employed.

Anonymous

#5 5w

And don’t let people that don’t know anything about u or ur situation make you feel worse. I’m stuck living with my parents bc of health issues, and I’d love to leave but can’t. So I understand feeling stuck. Ignore the rude strangers and focus on you

Anonymous

#1 5w

vodka and add weed before the run

Anonymous

#1 4w

Lift and drink beer after