My best friend’s family was like that, shockingly they still get together every Sunday for dinner and I’m the one with almost no contact with my parents who considered “why?” backtalk. The other day she was shocked to find out mine used a belt on me many times while her mom only used a flyswatter a couple times.
My dad used to hit me, but ever since I started standing up to him without crying and getting in his face with the same energy, he stopped. Maybe it’s because he’s old, or maybe he respects me for having bigger balls than any of my sisters. It’s definitely not because he CANT hit me, I’m a 4’11” 20f
Used to put up with the verbal abuse, I went through puberty and all of a sudden when I started to fire back, they would actually listen and think. It took years of blocking slaps and swats to get to where we are now, and no it’s not “healthy” but it allows for discourse that wasn’t there previously.
I have to blow up at her every few months. She becomes unbearable to everyone and they all look at me to deal with her. So I yell she gets sad bc I don’t hold back. Hell my cousin said I’m the only adult in this house at 22, tbh only reason she let us rent her house bc I have to keep shit under control
It’s not like that for everyone unfortunately. The second I defend myself, that’s when it gets worse. I literally just have to sit there and not say anything. Not everyone’s parents are mature enough to honor ‘authenticity and outspokenness’. Be lucky you have the opportunity to give them your mind.