Anonymous #1 13w

so i’m guessing that’s a no

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Anonymous OP 13w

No. This is straight up ABUSIVE. Like, so incredibly abusive that there’s absolutely no room for debate. Get out as soon as possible

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Anonymous #1 13w

she also calls me ugly and monkey and says i look like my ugly father and i should go live with him😭😭 she has anger issues for sure

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Anonymous #1 13w

but then she’ll act like my best friend 20 mins after

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Anonymous OP 13w

Everything you’ve mentioned is characteristic of a textbook abuser

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Anonymous #1 13w

i always thought it was normal. bc she had me young age and she’s always treated me like a sister. but we’re really close. but she’s also very toxic at times

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Anonymous OP 13w

Sounds like she’s toxic ALL the time. That’s the thing about abusive relationships, they’re hard to leave because the abuser creates a feeling of dependency. Let me guess, EVERY time you think she might have turned a new leaf, she ultimately does something else to make you realize she’s the same person she’s always been, no?

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Anonymous #1 13w

well i’ve never thought she’s changed. but when i’m at college she’s so nice and supportive but when i come home. she picks on everything i do. she says i make a mess when i don’t. she makes mean jokes at times. but i’m very dependent on her. i only have her actually. i would say she’s my best friend but shes extremely exhausting to be around

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Anonymous OP 13w

Yeah no that’s not a healthy parent/child relationship, that’s a fucking hostage situation

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Anonymous #1 13w

😭😭😭😭😭 but she swears she wants the best for me. idk

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Anonymous OP 13w

I’m sure she’s convinced herself that she does, but she absolutely doesn’t. If you truly love someone and want what’s best for them then you don’t fucking ABUSE THEM, especially not for YEARS

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Anonymous #1 13w

i have an absent father. so she’s does everything for me and i love her. and i think she loves me in her own way but resents me. she had me at 18 and always says she’s sacrificed her life for me. and i think that’s where the resentment comes in. and to make it worse she hates my dad which is valid

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Anonymous OP 13w

I have an absent father and my mom did/does everything for me too, that absolutely wouldn’t excuse her from abusing me. It was HER choice to have you, you never asked for any of this. It’s not your fault she had to put her life on hold, that’s ENTIRELY 100% ON HER. You can’t get pregnant because you were careless and then act like a saint for doing the bare minimum to keep your kid alive. The alternative was literally life in prison and she STILL didn’t do a halfway decent job

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Anonymous #1 13w

yeah i agree. but sometimes ill say you weren’t even that great of a mom when i get upset. or call her out. and she’ll be like what about your dad. but you don’t talk shit to him. go live with him then 😭 and im like 🧍🏻‍♀️ i should probably get therapy.

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Anonymous OP 13w

I strongly recommend that EVERYONE is in therapy at all times no matter your mental state or previous trauma, you’re no exception. Therapy has done WONDERS for me, would extremely highly recommend

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