
Yes, I feel the same. I have a 200k fic where the main character is going to make a choice knowing they’ll die and I’m still debating whether to tag major character death or not. I think I’m going to put in a note that the “chose not to use archive warnings” is taken seriously. If I tag major character death it just gets boiled down to that point and it’s frustrating because the character development won’t be meaningful if readers know what’s going to happen from the beginning.
Also - why are we caring less about narrative when fanfiction is the One Medium Of Creative Writing where a publisher can’t tell you something is too long to print? Where you can ACTUALLY take advantage of long wordcounts as opposed to being locked into the 70k-130k publishing range?
adding a note may be the way to go, but if you as an author feel that it takes away from the story to let that be known from the beginning, then don’t let it be known. choosing not to use archive warnings (especially with an added reminder for readers that you chose not to for a reason) is more than a valid choice to make for your story