Anonymous #1 4w

The thing is I’m unsure if they’re distancing themself, I’m really bad at reading people so there’s a very good chance I’m wrong. Because of that, I usually dismiss reads I get on people based on non explicit communication, but I’ve had this feeling for at least a year now so it feels like it needs to be addressed just in case. They’re also a friend I’ve had for 10 years so I can’t just abandon the friendship without at least checking in first

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Anonymous OP 4w

Some people will initiate conversation and bridge the gap and some ppl they’re not used to confrontation and just avoid. They’re probably going through things personally they don’t want to all of a sudden tell u or could be a grudge they’re holding onto or a little of both? Idk Totally get it. I would check in too. But it can be hard being the only friend that does the reaching out and checking in. It’s important for that to be mutual

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Anonymous #1 4w

Yeah, this friend has had a genuinely traumatic experience with an abusive ex friend who wanted to “confront them about an issue in their friendship” and just used that as an opportunity to berate them and make them feel worthless as a friend and as a person, so I don’t expect an immediate response. I don’t /think/ there’s any grudge, but again, I’m bad at reading people so who knows lol. If there is, this is their opportunity to bring it up

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh Jesus that’s rough, sorry for them!! Maybe just give it time or try to reassure them in any way? Seems like a tricky sitch

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Anonymous #1 4w

Yeah, it was really bad at the time. Thankfully we’ve already had an instance where I wanted to talk with our friend group generally ab an issue that helped them realize that I was genuinely coming from a good place, so hopefully them trusting me on that won’t be an issue. And yeah, I plan to give them 2 weeks to respond. If they take any longer than that though, I have to read that as confirmation that they’re distancing themself and I’ll let them know that before making any final decisions

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Anonymous #1 2w

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