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Friend Advice 7w
atp my friends’ futures are resting on me and it pisses me off ones a college dropout and ones just living in a not so great place and like i’m broke i’m jobless i’m a student still how tf do you expect me to magically just like take care of y’all wtf
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Anonymous 7w

Omaga this happens to me too. It is so hard. They are NOT your responsibility, YOU are. Your mental, physical, and economic stability is more important. They have other people too. You have to watch out for you first. You can help them, but shouldn’t do everything for them. It is very hard, but if you can’t even take care of yourself, how can you take care of those people?

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Anonymous 6w

I was put in a very similar situation a couple years ago and had to cut all of them out of my life. Three of them had jobs (as do I) and two did not. The one who made the MOST—as a welder for god’s sake (I work in a grocery store)!! He claimed I had to pay for almost everything every time because he had “bills.” We’d all go out to dinner together and he’d ask very loudly while looking at me “so who’s paying for [his jobless friend]?” And pressured me to volunteer

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6w

After I cut them off, I went through a period where I felt like I had to pay for everything still. Going out with the true friends I made despite cutting all of them off and staring from scratch, and for dates (I’m a lesbian, so it looked normal anyway) and had to have all of them convince me I didn’t have to do that, and we don’t need to spend money to spend time together, or it shouldn’t all be on me. Pretty traumatic imo, but I got through it, and hopefully you can too

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6w

You have to just let them go, especially if they’re forcing you down into a financial hole you can’t get out of on your own, because it sounds like they won’t be helping you any time soon. They’re leaches, and you need to cut them out of your life, or put your foot down and see if they stay if you say you’re unable to provide for them anymore. If they do leave (which they will) that’s how you know they were never truly your friend and just mooching off of you because they saw you as weak

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