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Friend Advice 3w
Bsf of 8 years has ghosted me. I’ve tried everything to contact her (I know she’s okay bc she’s seen mutual friends). What should I do? I just want closure at this point
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Go to her house
Call her mom
Do nothing
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Anonymous 2w

when people ghost you with no specific reason that you are aware of, at that point it isn’t your job to understand THEIR problem. they should communicate that with you . it’s a two way street, and since you’ve tried everything on your part, the ball is in her court.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I’m willing to look sad and desperate as long as she gives me something. Literally just a small explanation is all I want

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I mean we were so close. When we went to different colleges we would talk multiple times a day.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

i understand you and i’m sorry that this is happening to you because it sucks. but sometimes these things happen wether we like it or not, and it teaches you about yourself and the relationships around you. i’ve gone through the same thing and i remember for the longest always asking why? but overtime i slowly was learning to let it go because what good would it do me in the end.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

It sucks badddd and I’ve been very lucky in friendships thus far in life. I definitely will move on and will probably be a better person because of it but goddamn right now I’m desperate and mad. Like what gives you the audacity??

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

they already made their decision and because of that, their actions affected your feelings. that’s something that can’t be changed in that moment in time. and because of that, the why wouldn’t change the hurt you’ve felt, but give an explanation to it. maybe in the future or with time, you might get that explanation and then it’s for you to decide how to move forward. but for the time being , i’d focus on yourself and your betterment.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

trust me i know exactly how you feel. and it’s ok to feel what you need to feel right now. its natural because it feels like a sense of betrayal and abandonment. it is audacious. but this is one of those moments in life where you go through a trial and find a way to grow separate from her.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Thank u so much. I am lucky in that I have a very good support system at my college (and I suspect that’s part of the reason why she stopped talking to me, she often has had issues keeping friends at her college). They are helping me tremendously and I’m so busy lately that I forget it’s even happening sometimes, and then it hits again. But I will grow and overcome 🫶

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