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Friend Advice 2w
Atp I’m done always reaching out it’s their turn
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Anonymous 2w

I don’t understand people like do yall just want a “friend” when it’s convenient for you?

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Anonymous 2w

i relate to this a lot unfortunately. its genuinely frustrating and disheartening ngl. like of course i want to spend time with people i care about, and i chose to have YOU in my life, so why wouldn’t i want to spend time with you? makes no sense. and i’m not even asking for much, but it seems people only care about themselves and their conveniences , instead of being a member of the community and reciprocating. but apparently that’s asking for a lot 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Every word I agree with ty for replying

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

of course :) i am sorry though that you’re experiencing this and that this has to even be a thing in the first place. i don’t understand why people can’t look outside of themselves and realize that their actions, no matter how big or small, make an impact on people. being there for someone, especially your friends, should NOT be such a complicated thing, and you shouldn’t have to seek out and beg for someone’s attention.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I’ve pushed back heavily. I’ve stopped reaching out to people it’s not that I don’t want to hang out with them but if they’re not doing the same then why waste my energy? You do the effort I’m just tired of being hurt and have set boundaries with myself which I’m proud of

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

exactly, reciprocation is big, and relationships require balance. i saw the other day a good rule of thumb that if someone has invited u twice and u can't come, you then make the effort to make plans. then if you've initiated plans twice and they can't come, the ball is in their court. if they don't reach out again, it's not worth the time. but i relate to you, the hard part for me is setting those boundaries for myself bc however tempting it is, it'll only prolong the affliction. take care 🫶

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