Instead of focusing on attracting new people just focus on yourself, work on your skills, hobbies, exercise, and personal growth and over time you’ll start attracting people without trying

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Let it happen, don’t go into things with the intention of making friends, just do homework with someone in your class once or pretend to have a question about something to ask someone else or offer to help them

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I lost a best friend and have been struggling too. I’m also a junior and I feel the same as you. No matter what I do nobody is interested in a strong friendship. I don’t have any advice, but just know you’re not alone and I hope you can find your new group

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I have a hard time getting people to respond back to me in class during syllabus week and keep the conversation going. As a junior I only have a couple friends in college Any advice, I have my recitations all today?

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All these people who are saying “just let it happen” have not been in your situation. Truth is, you gotta start going all out at trying to make friends NOW. Join like 10 clubs, and then go on trips those clubs host. Im talking overnight weekend trips. That right there is the secret sauce. Be fun and compliment folks without sounding fake while there. Just going on a trip gives you an instant connection with people. It’s the fast track to late game friends in college.

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A simple greeting multiple times consecutively goes a long way

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one of the simple ways i’ve found is going to organizations / club meetings and events on campus! you’ll not only meet people w/ similar interests, but you’re making an effort to be involved and through that, you may meet potential friends <3!!

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I feel that but focus on yourself. When you start to feel better and do better, you’ll attract people who want the same things in life as you do and who will make great friends.

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Found my friend group my junior year. Whoever said join clubs that do overnight trips and be consistently friendly is right. And just work on you… go to gym, etc and be visible. It will happen!

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Lmao I thought I was the only one 😭🤣

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R u ok?

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You know if they’re a good friend/group when y’all can laugh at just about anything. Keep gossipers and the overly pessimistic at a safe distance because you can’t help but think they gossip about you

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I’m a senior in a verrryyy similar situation. I also struggle getting close to people after everything because of trauma so that makes it even more difficult.

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Let it be, feel, breathe and go it’ll come with intention.

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i feel the same way we all lived together and it ruined the friendship

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It’s never too late to make more friends. They’ll come and go your whole life. Just focus on yourself and maybe join a club. You’ll find people everywhere

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I echo what these comments say. I also want to point out that friends open opportunities for more friends. Going from 0 to 1 or 1 to 2 is hard, but your social circle will eventually build out with people you enjoy. Everyone feels lonely and needs friends, you’ll find your crowd for sure

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when you go from having a friend group to literally no one in 2 years, you start to wonder what you did wrong and the answer is nothing. I just got out of an extremely toxic friend group where everyone talked shit about everyone and genuinely started to hate each other. I feel alone but i know with time, i may find someone who just wants to hang out like normal people and not always drink or do drugs or something in that field. i just want a friend. it’s also hard coming from across the country

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Talk to the people around you. Within 5 same classes I have 3 friends from around me. Now they all show up early and we bullshit for 20 mins before class

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what i did was before school started, i reach out to a lot of people in my year and i talked to some more than others, especially if we had similar interests. then we eventually started getting closer and hanging out and now we’re friends! even simple things like going to the dining hall together are nice too!

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Just start talking to the people in your classes :) if they don’t become friends at least you have some nice study buddies

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Message me

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i made friends freshman year by going to to my school’s incoming freshman insta page and finding people that follow similar celebrities, shows, fandom accounts, etc as you and then dm them about one of those topics you have in common

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Join clubs, talk to people in class

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there r so many people, ik it sucks but try doing what u did freshman year again. people are still def looking for friends

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You and me, rn- We’re friends, lets go.

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