Anonymous #1 14w

Implying that they’re “both at fault” means the man is only 50% responsible for his own actions. Holding “the other woman” accountable is always going to be a way to point fingers and deflect from holding the man accountable. At the end of the day, he is his own person, and is fully, 100% responsible for his own decisions. Who the other woman is or what she did and didn’t know doesn’t change that.

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Anonymous #1 14w

The other woman may be responsible for hurting or causing pain to the man’s partner, but that is a separate issue. Nobody can “steal” your partner, nobody can “wreck” a home. People have to accept that their partner is their own person and is fully liable for their own actions, especially as it pertains to men.

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Anonymous OP 14w

I think of it more as they are both 100% wrong, instead of sharing 50% of the guilt

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Anonymous OP 14w

I do agree with you though that if someone was willing to cheat, they were going to anyway. The real wrecker of the home is definitely the man

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Anonymous #2 14w

lol made someone mad in seconds

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Anonymous OP 14w

that’s not how the world works. we aren’t percentages. both are 100% in the wrong

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Anonymous #2 14w

Directing your anger at the other woman is pointless though. They didn’t betray you or your partnership. They’re a stranger. Your partner is the one who CHOSE to betray you, cross your boundaries, and actively sought out someone else.

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Anonymous #2 14w

I think some homeworkers are mad lmfao

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Anonymous #2 14w

I’m literally saying this as someone who’s been cheated on and has had a long and difficult healing journey.

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Anonymous OP 14w

If you know a man is taken and you hook up with him then you are ALSO in the wrong. idk what’s not clicking for you

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Anonymous #2 14w

But that’s for her and her guilty conscious to deal with, that’s not between me and my partner. Ultimately she is not responsible for my partners actions.

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Anonymous OP 14w

? no one said anything about you and your partner. we’re saying her AND the guy are both pos. she’s responsible for her own actions, as is the man, and they both chose to be a dumbass

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Anonymous #2 14w

She’s not responsible for him cheating though which is my entire point lmfao.

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Anonymous OP 14w

she IS responsible for helping him cheat if she knew he was in a relationship. it’s not a hard concept.

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Anonymous #2 14w

Nobody can “help you cheat.” This is what I’m talking about. The framing of infidelity as something two people play a part in. It isn’t. Your partner is solely responsible for breaking their oaths to you.

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Anonymous OP 14w

bae you’re past the point of help I’m not wasting more time here.

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Anonymous #2 14w

That’s okay! You’re still wrong though, like objectively.

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Anonymous OP 14w

Lmaoo dont listen to this person op they sound like an idiot, I’m sorry you went through this and I hope you are healing ❤️❤️

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Anonymous #2 14w

She never said the women isn’t in the wrong. It’s that the man that cheated on her MADE THAT CHOICE HIMSELF!!!! Yes the women is wrong for that too. But the man chose to end the relationship when he did that is what she’s saying. You don’t convince people to cheat, they just do. idk what’s not clicking for YOU

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I don’t think people understand what I’m trying to say. I’m not saying sleeping with a partnered person isn’t wrong. I’m saying it’s not their fault your partner cheated. Cheating is and will only ever be an action ONE person can do. It’s a choice your partner makes. Nobody else CAN be responsible for that choice but them, and once you understand that, it’s a lot easier to hold the right person accountable and process the pain of THEIR decision alone.

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Anonymous OP 14w

Completely agree girl

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Anonymous OP 14w

👏 👏 👏

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Anonymous #3 14w

that’s pathetic that you feel the need to say I “sound like an idiot” just bc we don’t agree lmfao. just proves I shouldn’t waste my time trying to explain this

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Anonymous #2 14w

Adultery is committed by the person who goes out and seeks new partners after they are in a relationship, not those who they choose to hide that fact from or those they decide to cheat with. If a man has cheated, he’s a shit head and I hope he loses all his partners

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Anonymous #4 14w

No it’s not bro.

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Anonymous #5 14w

hey so I literally said “if she knew.” let’s use reading comprehension skills before we try to argue

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Anonymous #2 14w

This is almost victim blaming. If a girl is being used as cheating material, she is a victim

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Anonymous #5 14w

remember when I said reading comprehension skills. I’m talking about women who KNOW he’s in a relationship and still seek him out. she’s not a victim, she’s a piece of shit just like he is

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Anonymous #2 14w

I don’t think you’re an idiot because i disagree w you, it’s because you’re making no sense, insulting others bc they’re proving you wrong, and just the way you’re speaking lmaooo but that’s neither here nor there just was putting it out there 😂

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people are literally saying it’s not her fault at all, only his. which isn’t true. I’m not even gonna argue anymore bc I’m convinced you people argue before reading bc you just told me a blatant lie “everyone has said that” lmfao 🙄. I also only “attacked” OP bc she was on here attacking others before I even left my comment but whatever. pick and choose when it’s a problem based on whatever benefits your narrative

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Anonymous #2 14w

And the part where you say argue instead of discuss, like why do you need to argue can’t we just have an adult conversation instead of insulting others?

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Anonymous #3 14w

no one is proving me wrong lmfao. the woman is in the wrong if she knew he was in a relationship. like that’s just the facts. you’re getting very emotional calling me an idiot 3 times now (counting the one you deleted) and the “lmaoooo” just say you don’t understand what I’m saying and move on

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Anonymous #3 14w

well no one is discussing here bc some people like to immediately call others idiots before having a discussion so

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Anonymous #3 14w

also. YOURE the one who insulted me before I had even said a word to you. idk who you a think you are “can’t we just have an adult conversation instead of insulting others”

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Anonymous #2 14w

You’re actually insane! Don’t like the taste of your own medicine huh? 🤔

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Anonymous #3 14w

literally what’s wrong with you. like genuinely

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Anonymous #2 14w

YOU started the degrading and arguing babes, try again!

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Anonymous #3 14w

you called me an idiot before I said a single word to you. then you lie and say people are agreeing with me when they’re not. then you try to “lmaoooo” and “can’t we just have a discussion like adults” your way out of it. insanely emotionally immature. I’m not wasting more time on you. you clearly can’t have a discussion like an adult

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Anonymous #2 14w

I insulted you bc you started talking shit to op. As I said you don’t like the taste of your own medicine 🤭🤭🤭

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Anonymous #3 14w

tell me again how you don’t wanna throw around insults and how you wanna discuss like an adult? I’ll wait

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Anonymous #2 14w

You’re actually insane, the switch up is crazyyyyy

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Anonymous #3 14w

so fucking pathetic. go outside and touch grass holy shit

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Anonymous #3 14w

you haven’t made a single good point. all you’ve done is whine lmfao. I’m gonna go do something productive with my time and not argue with a child

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Anonymous #2 14w

What’s pathetic Is you coming on here and degrading a woman that clearly went through something and calling her stupid because she doesn’t understand what you’re trying to say when you were making no fucking sense. I’m actually dying laughing at the fact that you switched up so much when you got treated how you were treating others 🫢🫢 go touch grass and grow the fuck up

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Anonymous #2 14w

Someone doesn’t like it when people match their energy 😱

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Anonymous #3 14w

lmfaoooo you’re so emotional. thanks for giving me a laugh

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Anonymous #2 14w

Girl we were all already laughing at you

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Anonymous #3 14w

I’m chilling actually, thanks. you tried to upset me but all you did was make yourself look like an emotional child.

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Anonymous #2 14w

I hate women who care about men’s rights and abilities more than their own. It’s so backwards. They also tend to drink a lot of cool aid and not do much of anything else.

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Anonymous #5 14w

idgaf about men ? so idk what you’re on

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Anonymous OP 14w

see i would say i agree, but sometimes they are in fact not a stranger. they’re someone close to you which is even worse

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Anonymous OP 14w

If you’re talking from the perspective of the one being cheated on then definitely, your husband holds the majority of the blame since he’s closer. Talking from an outside perspective though, I’d say they’re more equally at fault, though I’d blame the person cheating first since they’re the ones betraying their spouse

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Anonymous OP 14w

Or ORRRR both are 100% at fault. If both ppl know they’re cheating they’re both at fault 100%, not both 50%. It doesn’t work like that. The cheater is 100% responsible and the person he’s cheating with if the person he’s cheating with knows they’re cheating is responsible at well. Let’s normalize holding grown men AND women accountable for their dumbass actions.

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Anonymous OP 14w

Your partner is solely responsible for breaking their oaths to you, but the person they are cheating with if they knew is also responsible for doing something else that is morally wrong. It is not just for their guilty conscious, as a society we should condemn both. If I am in the relationship I will focus my blame on my partner that cheated but as an outside observer they are both indefensible.

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Anonymous #5 14w

Yeah, if a man has cheated he is a shit head who should lose all his partners. But when someone commits a horrific act and others hide that fact, do you know what they’re called? Accomplices. If I murder someone and someone else covers it up, I did the murder and that person is an accomplice, the same applies here

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Anonymous #5 14w

They aren’t the perpetrator but they are the accomplice, in every other instance a knowing accomplice gets their share of blame they do in this one too

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Anonymous OP 14w

The other woman did betray an expectation of how women are to each other and our societal responsibility to each other though. Yes, your partner is the one who cheated on you, yes that is the primary and biggest betrayal, that does not make it the only betrayal

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Anonymous #11 14w

The majority of people put the blame on both And he is not “the one” at fault. He is at fault, 100% at fault, the woman who offered is also 100% at fault for what she did. There is not one total pool of blame for us to divide up, they are both at fault for what each of them did

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Anonymous OP 14w

They are both 100 percent responsible for their actions and both of their actions are unethical. So they are both at fault of being a bad person. One’s a bad man who left his family ones a home wrecker. That’s the way I see it at least

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Anonymous #13 14w

Women absolutely owe to other women—and people owe other people in general—to not be accomplices in cheating

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Anonymous #9 14w

All this is making the assumption that women KNOW the man is cheating. If they do than the woman should alert the girlfriend to allow her to seek justice (likely in the form of a breakup)

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Anonymous #5 14w

But if the woman doesn’t know, it’s not her job to investigate a man she’s sleeping with for infidelity. That’s his problem and hopefully karma blasts his ass.

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Anonymous #5 14w

facts. i feel like anyone can tempt you as much as they want it’s up to you to stop putting yourself in that situation and think about your family or relationship?

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Anonymous #13 14w

Well we as a society think it’s funny or hot to hold a woman accountable for a mans actions. It’s a huge issue that woman need to push back against. Men hate being held accountable and having the threat of being clocked for immoral behavior should be enough to keep him in his place

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Anonymous #15 14w

Sounds like a good idea

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Anonymous #17 14w

I think knowledge on the homewreckers part is very incriminating though. Like just cause he is supposed to deny other women doesn’t mean women should still hit on a married man

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Anonymous #14 14w

Actually I’m an enlightened partner who was cheated on. Projection?

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Anonymous #9 14w

Bad analogy. If someone buys an item that was stolen from you, are they responsible for stealing it or is the thief?

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Anonymous OP 14w

if they asked that person ahead of time to steal the item from you with an offer to buy it off of you they would legally be guilty of solicitation the punishment for which is based on that of the crime itself, the specifics of the punishment and whether it can be the full amount of the crime or some percentage of it depends on your jurisdiction

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Anonymous #14 14w

wtf made you think this

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