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Communicate with him? Why is it so hard for people to just ask questions… it’s always assumptions and it kills relationship. “Hey I just want you to know that im not really in the mood for sex. If u still wanna hang out non sexually , im down”
So this guy I’ve hooked up with a couple times wants to hangout again but I don’t want to have sex. Like I’d be down to hangout and talk and chill but not have sex, but it might get awkward if that’s what he wants. So help, what should I do?
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Hangout
Don’t hangout
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Anonymous 14w

#1 Do you feel like he would respect what you said if you told him that you dont want sex?

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Anonymous 14w

I was asking for advice a simple comment would’ve sufficed :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

I’m just tired of people not communicating and avoiding simple issues and instead throwing a fit about it. Sorry I crashed out.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

This is so real

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Yeah I wouldn’t consider my post me “throwing a fit”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

A lot of people do throw fits on here though instead of communicating

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

Yeah and I wasn’t one of them I was genuinely asking for advice and how to go about this. I didn’t know if that’s something I bring up before or after going over because I don’t want to make things awkward. This post is just mean.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

What’s more awkward is hanging out with someone who wants sex when you don’t or vice versa. And what’s even more awkward is when a lack of communication turns into a friend breakup. Women (and men) like you represent a huge problem in society and I’m tired of people who act like I should read my mind. Please grow up.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Their mind

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Girl wtf that was the whole point of my post. I didn’t know if it was a problem if I went over there or not so that is literally why I asked the question I do not understand why you are being so rude about this. And idk how this would leave to a friend breakup? Sounds like you might be upset about something else and misplacing your anger?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

If you had rewritten your poll to say “hangout” “dont” or “talk to him about my feelings,” I wouldn’t crash out But also clearly I’m not the only one that is tired of this miscommunication b$. Just talk to him. Make your feelings heard. It’ll be better for both of u.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

I really feel as though you are making this all a bigger deal this it needs to be lol. I don’t have any strong feelings I need to communicate with him or anything I was simply just wondering if it would be a good or bad idea to hangout with him since we have hooked up in the past so he might have that in his head. All you had to do was comment “I think it’d be best to tell him you don’t want to hookup again before going over and see if he is still down” like someone else commented. You didn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

need to repost and go all this whole rant and get so angry.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Yea because you people do this constantly. You don’t even consider the conversation as an option. You go to ur friends and ask for advice, then let them infer what your friend/hookup/partner means. I’m tired of it. And yes I’m clocking both men and women for this behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Who is “you people?” Like damn who hurt you so bad?😭 My post was such a simply non serious question and you’re blowing out of proportion. If this dude was my partner or fwb then yeah I would’ve just communicated first with no question, but I really think there’s no harm in asking for other girls’ advice before proceeding with a guy I don’t even know that well. It’s really not that deep.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Friends. Past partners. All of them.

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