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Girl Talk 18h
How do I ask if the guy I’m talking to wants a relationship or not without seeming like I’m rushing it or asking for him to date right now? I more just want to know what direction it’s headed in
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Anonymous 17h

Asking when you’re not dating already may be premature, depends on more deets. But you just hint at future scenarios of the two of you together and see his responses; with more time, you can literally just ask what you guys are. Also pay attention to meetup time ratios, are you mostly seeing him during evening hours, past midnight only, or is it mixed in with daytimes

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Anonymous 18h

How long have you been talking

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

A month

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Is it just talking or have you actually gone out together

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

We’ve been going out like twice a week + texting every day

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Jeez okay you seriously need to ask him what are we then cause if not it’s gonna go on for months

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Ikr I just don’t know how to ask

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

“What are we?” Literally just that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

I feel like if I just text that he’ll think I’m angry or som

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Just do it out of the blue there’s no other way, I mean you could do it in person too so he hears your tone but it’ll take more guts

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Ok thank you I feel like that’s prob a good idea I just need to gather the confidence

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Yes you can do you literally win in every scenario: he says just friends or whatever then you stop wasting your time and effort, he says more than friends then you can date

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Yeah ur right thanks queen

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Ofc you got this!!!!

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