Anonymous #1 5w

what would you do if you really liked your partner and wanted to marry them eventually? would you stay with them and marry later or would you break it off and marry someone else later

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Anonymous #2 5w

yeah that’s what i mean!!

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Anonymous OP 5w

well if i wanted to marry them i would stay and try to marry them when im much older

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Anonymous #1 5w

if i were dating for marriage my standards would be much more strict

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Anonymous #1 5w

so you’re just dating for fun now but plan to date for marriage later? i kind of put that under the dating for marriage category tbh

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Anonymous OP 5w

i mean yeah but i don’t personally consider that dating for marriage. if i were dating for marriage then every partner i had would be someone i could see as a future husband and father of my children

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Anonymous #3 5w

as long as you’re open with people that you’re dating casually and using protection, that’s totally fine!

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Anonymous #1 5w

interesting. as someone who is dating for marriage, i definitely wouldn’t date somebody i couldn’t envision being a good husband or father.

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Anonymous OP 5w

yeah exactly. that’s why i dont consider myself dating for marriage. i might really like someone and date them, but i wont be so picky as to making sure our beliefs with raising children align. i dont expect the relationship to last until marriage because people change a lot and life happens

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Anonymous #1 5w

i tried to do that but then it was kind of heart wrenching knowing that i spent time loving someone in a situation that was gonna break my heart because our values were so misaligned. i wish id spent more time talking about the important things at first.

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Anonymous OP 5w

i think if i tried to wait until i found someone like that, i wouldn’t be dating at all because i wouldn’t find them for years. i also want to sexually explore more before i settle down with one person for the rest of my life.

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Anonymous #1 5w

sure that’s fine. i have a fwb for sexual things while i look for a long term partner.

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Anonymous OP 5w

yeah see i always end up falling for my fwbs

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Anonymous #1 5w

tsk tsk. you gotta find someone you’re friendly with but not friends with and then you gotta keep it limited to just sex. no chats, no birthday texts (unless to segue into sexy time), no spending the night. when you catch feelings you gotta tell them and skidaddle. but if you can’t do it, you can’t do it. me n mine are going on two years and we’d frankly never date each other. it’s nice

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Anonymous OP 5w

yeah thats the thing, i don’t really like not having a relationship outside of sex. it makes me feel objectified and the sex doesn’t feel as good. i want to feel like I’M wanted, not just a female a body, yk? i might try again in the future though

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Anonymous #1 5w

not just *any female body

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Anonymous #1 5w

then it’s probably just not for you. personally, i found it really empowering. i was the one who suggested it, and i found it kind of hot that we’d only hang out to get freaky. it let me try new things sexually that i’d be too nervous to try with a partner i had feelings for, and let us be super open and candid about our sexual preferences. i also think it’s nice to have someone who’s open about their sexual history with you and who’ll get tested and stuff.

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Anonymous OP 5w

oh yeah i’m totally the opposite. i feel much more comfortable talking about sexuality and trying new things with someone i know and trust like a partner

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Anonymous #1 5w

also i should add that he and i get along pretty well and we find each other funny and nice. just not emotionally attached you know? we’re like casual friends/acquaintances. i definitely don’t feel used for my body. i’ve felt like that with some people especially when i had feelings for them. when i don’t have feelings for him, it just feels fun and makes me feel super confident in my body and sexy

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Anonymous #1 5w

🤷‍♀️ i know him. i trust him. just not my partner

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Anonymous OP 5w

i get what you’re saying. i’m just saying if i personally had a dynamic like that where we only talk for the purpose of having sex, i would struggle to trust them

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Anonymous #4 5w

as long as you’re honest with your partners from the get go that you’re dating casually, i think it’s fine. maybe don’t tell them that if you match well you’ll consider sticking around because that could create a lot of pressure on them

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Anonymous OP 5w

I meant it more like I just want to date around until I find someone I match well with like most people already do

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Anonymous #4 5w

Without marriage being a goal

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