i feel like there is inherently something wrong with me bc guys of all races around me have always preferred white girls. also yt people tend to value thinness in a way that black people dont so ive always been bullied and picked on for that too. i just want to feel like i belong somewhere. like i’m valuable too

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i really hope it’s not non-black women in these comments saying you struggled because of “mindset”… as if the way predominantly white spaces treat us has nothing to do with our race…

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I feel this so much. I don’t even think about dating anymore. I’ve just accepted it might not happen for me. I went to a mixed high school & then a PWI, and the lack of diversity and cultural disconnect really messes with me. I wish I hadn’t chosen a PWI. As a Black girl (plus size too according to their standards 🤷🏾‍♀️) it’s done damage to my self-esteem. I’ve never felt seen/desired the entire time I’ve been at this school and I’ve sadly accepted that until I move it’ll always be this way.

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There’s nothing wrong with you. Going to school with mostly white people warps your perception of yourself. You’re still beautiful regardless if white people didn’t say so back then. The damage isn’t irreparable, and this is coming from a woman who went to a predominantly white hs and college. It’s gonna be ok, you just have to change your mindset

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as a brown muslim girl i feel you. my parents thought we would be getting a better education. we were literally the only brown muslim family in my small, super white town. the racism there was nauseating and i never felt welcome in any spaces other than with the few other poc kids. a lot of ppl had to sacrifice their cultural identities to fit in. i also used to be plus size all throughout school so i was bullied for that as well. my parents also regret it now too bc of the trauma it caused.

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Your problem isn’t external, it has nothing to do with the school, parents, or men, but everything to do with the system of beliefs you have for yourself. Do not base your worth/value on if you feel like OTHER people value you. The question is, do you value yourself. No one else can truly love you until you love you.

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