Anonymous #1 15h

Sum was saying how trans girls have to try harder to be feminine while cis girls don’t even have to try

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Anonymous #4 12h

Far more similarities than differences. There are no monoliths and dismissing other women doesn’t benefit any of us.

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Anonymous #3 11h

Not dismissing any women but if trans women compare themselves to cis women its just going to develop a hatred and jealousy because there are some major differences. We all matter, were all feminine and cute but comparing just leads to an endless argument and may just make them feel bad about themselves where they dont need to. I hope im saying this right and I agree with your point

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Anonymous #5 6h

i and so many other trans women will be called butch or masc for like wearing pants. if you’re a trans woman who is anything but the extremes of hyper femininity and always put together you’re viewed as less feminine than a cis woman who puts in an equivalent amount of “effort” so to speak and it’s exhausting and not to mention insulting to have cis women then turn around and say insensitive stuff like this to diminish that struggle

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Anonymous #5 6h

this also isn’t solely an issue that effects trans women. many women of color or really just any woman who doesn’t fit within a very narrow mold of white european femininity and beauty standards has her femininity put into question and more heavily scrutinized than those who fit more closely to that ideal

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Anonymous #5 6h

I hear what ur trying to say and I’m not denying that trans women get judged more harshly. My point wasn’t to diminish that, just that femininity isn’t something anyone should have to “earn” or prove, and it shouldn’t turn into comparing who’s more feminine

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Anonymous #5 6h

I agree with that, it’s definitely not just a trans issue.. beauty standards affect a lot of women in different ways. That’s kind of my point tho, none of this should turn into comparing who’s “more feminine” or who has to try harder, bc that just keeps those same standards going

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Anonymous #5 5h

Black women especially struggle with this because it often feels like society masculates us for just existing. Like for trans women, appearing “feminine” to the public’s eye often feels like an uphill battle, especially when comparing ourselves to their beauty standards. Anyway my point is, I feel you but I also agree with OP in the sense that we shouldn’t be worried about what random ppl think abt us. Femininity is more than just clothes and body parts anyway

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Anonymous younghoe 2h

comparing out of jealousy is bad but comparing as an acknowledgement of privilege is normal. because cis women do have a lot more privilege than trans women, and the frustration that comes with that is valid. BIPOC and trans women are told and pressured to constantly compare their appearance to be seen as women. we shouldn't accept it as healthy, but we can understand where it comes from.

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