Like just acknowledge my bday and don’t tell me the plans!

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I totally agree. I never want someone to feel forgotten and unloved. Especially because birthdays are already such a vulnerable day for a lot of people.

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Wait at first I was like huh but I actually agree because just because there’s a surprise doesn’t mean you should pretend to forget.

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Seriously

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Same, if you’re gonna do a surprise party have it so that the person thinks there’s no plans for a party this year (like my cousin’s fiance who had a very small get together the night before with immediate relatives), or have the party a few days before the actual birthday date

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jr yr i had a falling out w some friends. a month later everyone pretended to forget my birthday and i went home crying and planning on cancelling my party that i had planned for that weekend bc i thought they all didn’t care. turned out it was j bc of the surprise party that night :,)

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Agreed

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I just think being forgotten and devalued is the worst feeling when you think you have people who care about you

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