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my bf and i are breaking up today because we’re just 2 different people at different parts of our lives. it hurts so bad but i love him so much it’s actually sickening , and he loves me. there are just a lot of fundamental differences between us
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Anonymous 5w

i literally just feel like i’m never going to be okay again even tho i am , and i want to sit here and convince him that i can be better and we can both try harder , but it’s not going to stick for long and we’re going to be back in this position in 3 months.

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Anonymous 5w

like is it better to just call it now? i don’t want to know a life where im not with him , but i can’t keep shrinking myself to fit his life and asking him to be just MORE in my life yk ????

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Anonymous 5w

if you truly both love each other, you sacrifice things for each other - it has to go both ways, so if you’re sacrificing more for him then it’s understandable to break up. but if he’s willing to change things for you like you are for him, then your love is worth it. relationships, and therefore marriages, are about putting the other person first. you’re a team. you both have to make that effort, and if you can do that, I wouldn’t break up bc that’s special

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Anonymous 5w

You can still love from a distance. And sometimes that’s what’s needed, and that’s okay. Take the time you need to process and work through your feelings, but know that your feelings don’t have to change even if the situation does. ❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

it’s so special and i love him so much , he’s told me that he’s not willing to do some things that would make me feel seen and fulfilled because it’s “not who he is” and i’m just tired of asking too much of him

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I went through something similar and I will say it gets easier after school - he graduated first and the distance was really rough, but after moving in after I graduated things have been much easier. It was so hard but so worth it because I found someone who puts me first and who I want to put first in my life

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

i really want to put him first and i really want him to put me first , the distance between us is so hard and is definitely something we’ve always struggled with but i just don’t want to feel like im shrinking myself and trying to minimize who i am and i don’t want him to feel like hes turning into someone he’s not either

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Are these things that you’re okay with him not doing? Because while he could be special and you love him so much are these the deal breakers? Do you feel like you’re putting so much into it compared to him? Or no?

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Anonymous replying to -> lavish_hitbomb_ilysfm 5w

like he’s such an amazing person and so patient and kind and understanding , but i crave variety and spontaneity and flowers and love letters and random dates and surprises , and he just doesn’t do any of that. he craves peace and stability and comfort and i am a whirlwind and i just feel like im too much a lot of the time , i feel like im putting a lot of ME into it that there’s almost like no room for him to be himself either…

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

the way i started sobbing when i read this. i don’t want anything to change i just want to love him and be his girlfriend

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