Anonymous #1 3w

I’m paranoid because it felt like someone gave me evil eye earlier

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Anonymous OP 3w

okay listen girl you need to take like so many steps back. i get it, i really do, but you’re just gonna ruin this relationship and connection if you’re gonna be that paranoid.

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Anonymous OP 3w

also 9:45 is like a very reasonable time to return after being out

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Anonymous #2 3w

I just see his location when I go to text so i see it’s a different city and I’m like waht are you doing there

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Anonymous #1 3w

well yeah it’s reasonable to be out at a bar or whatever but why is he at school lol

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Anonymous OP 3w

well yea looking once is fine but to continue checking all night to see where he ends up is not normal or healthy.

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Anonymous OP 3w

probably because he’s tired and wanted to go back?

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Anonymous #2 3w

keep in mind theyre talking not even dating 😭

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Anonymous #1 3w

whT do you mean talking

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Anonymous #1 3w

he doesn’t live there

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Anonymous OP 3w

his friends might?

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Anonymous #1 3w

he lives 30 minutes away and school isn’t even in session rn that’s why I’m like wtf you doing there

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Anonymous #1 3w

they do not lol they do not go there

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Anonymous #1 3w

ik im crazy but im not overlooking a logical explanation. like why drive 35 miles to goodwill when there are 9 of them closer to you. for sonic id get it. they have a sonic there. but they dont have any closer. it’s very sad

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Anonymous #1 3w

ok I looked up talking and I think that sounds fake. we are dating and have been a few months. I say I’m seeing him because spiritually I am a grandma

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Anonymous OP 3w

Maybe he just wants to walk around campus with his friends show off his buildings for classes and his old dorm halls and stuff??

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Anonymous #3 3w

there could be soooo many reasons

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Anonymous #3 3w

well no

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Anonymous #1 3w

can you give me one because none have occurred to me which is why I inquired in the first place. I wasn’t like wow you have driven 35 miles to have sex with another woman in the goodwill parking lot. I was just like why are you far away

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Anonymous OP 3w

just wait patiently and ask tomorrow how his night was and what he was up to and see what he says

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Anonymous #1 3w

He wasn’t with his friends im not fucking crazy he was with a girl I don’t know why he lies

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Anonymous OP 3w

lying about hanging w a girl leads me to believe he knows he did something wrong and didn't want to get caught

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Anonymous #2 3w

I don’t understand im not stupid but he thinks I am I question things and yall were giving him the benefit of the doubt last night because you’re operating with less info which is valid but I know when things don’t make sense and I don’t know why he didn’t just say hey girl im hanging with my coworker from my old job up north

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Anonymous OP 3w

ultimately, it sounds like u don't have enough trust in him for this relationship to be healthy and continue. i'd seriously think on if this connection is positively impacting ur life because i can guarantee ur gonna feel like u have to check his location daily to see if he's telling u everything, which isn't healthy or normal

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Anonymous #2 3w

I don’t feel like I have to like I didn’t think anything was weird because he said he was hanging out with his friend and then I went to text him after work and saw his location like under his name like not on find my friends even. And then it set off my crazy woman alarm

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Anonymous #2 3w

I don’t have trust in him because he lies about stupid shit for no reason and I don’t think it can be healthy because like what is your problem

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Anonymous #2 3w

Like literally if he just said yes I am hanging out with coworker of ambiguous gender from job at this location I would not have had a single suspicion it was because he said he was with this one friend and then I saw where he was I was like ??? When tbh I should have asked why I wasn’t invited along with the imaginary friend bc I usually am

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Anonymous #2 3w

it’s validating to know my intuition was right but it sucks because I don’t know why he feels like he has to lie or why he pretends I don’t think things are serious beyond being in his business when I sat with his parents at his graduation and laid on the floor with him all day when his cat was dying

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Anonymous OP 3w

you can't build trust back that's been lost. sounds likes it's time for him to go and to move on to someone who's willing to be more open and communicative with u

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Anonymous OP 3w

plus side is now u won't have ur peace disturbed daily by wondering what else he's not telling u

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Anonymous #2 3w

and yet I still will because like what else did he lie about. it will haunt me

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Anonymous OP 3w

idk how long yall have been together but to counter that thought, you can think about how much other stuff you're saving yourself from him lying about over time

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Anonymous #2 3w

about 6 months but yeah

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