if they can sustain themselves on more than frozen and premade foods that's good in my book. full blown cooking can be unmanageable, but **almost anybody can boil water and make pasta or quickly grill up a quesadilla with some fillings my main thing is they better not expect me to cook anything fancy if they couldn't themselves. i love making food but i won't feel pressured if they don't even do that for me ** obviously some ppl have limitations and that's ok too