Girl Talk on Yik Yak | Me and my older brother are concerned over our other brother who seems depressed, doesn’t come out room, doesn’t talk to us (is diagnosed with autism), and has no ambition in life. He doesn’t take care of his hygiene and literally doesn’t even look at us.

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Girl Talk 9w

Me and my older brother are concerned over our other brother who seems depressed, doesn’t come out room, doesn’t talk to us (is diagnosed with autism), and has no ambition in life. He doesn’t take care of his hygiene and literally doesn’t even look at us.

Anonymous 9w

as someone depressed, you’re right. the most helpful thing is offer support, let him know he can ask you for things if he needs, bringing him food, and then giving him space

Anonymous 9w

We are both worried and only want the best for our brother but it seems like we can only help him if he wants to change and we don’t know if he does it seems like he doesn’t

Anonymous

#1 9w

It seems like he doesn’t trust us and always pushes us away, shuts the door on our faces, doesn’t make eye contact like ever, only murmurs in response when we talk (can’t really make out what he’s saying), and it’s rare for him to even go outside. He literally traps himself in his room. Also he seems to hate wearing shirts (perhaps it’s a sensory issue.) it’s a lot of things. We don’t know what we can do for him and it’s like only a professional can really help him but he doesn’t want any help

Anonymous

OP 9w

i know. it’s really really hard to see someone you love struggling. you both are doing the best you can for him🫂

Anonymous

OP 9w

One thing that might be helpful would be to casually drop harm-reduction methods. Don’t suggest that he do them, maybe don’t even say them directly to him, but talk abt them when he’s around. “My friend struggles to brush her teeth so her dentist told her just using mouthwash can help, and now she has less cavities!” directed at your other brother, etc

Anonymous

#1 9w

Thank you, yes we feel guilty for not being there more or letting it get this bad without knowing how severe it was until now. My brother keeps asking if he wants to come along with him to the gym even if he keeps saying no.

Anonymous

#3 9w

Hmm okay I’ll try this strategy! I feel like I already say similar things to my mom when he’s around. I’m not sure, he doesn’t like even being in the living room when we are all there. He just prefers avoiding us. Anyways yeah I’m not sure what he’s struggling with in regards to hygiene but he did stop brushing his teeth as frequently and showering. My older brother said it got real bad.