See and that’s the other thing 😭 that cannottttt be your opener 😭 the only way I can see that is “I mean I gotta say it - [stupid joke] lmao I’m so sorry ANYWAY what’s your niche interests?” but again I’d accept it very differently from a woman as opposed to from a man, and I’d never use it as an opener even in that context bcos it’s just too risky to make the other person uncomfortable 😭