Anonymous #1 21h

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Anonymous #2 21h

i also have OCD. @OP if thats ur only HI, i think you should mention it to a therapist. i mostly have checking/contamination OCD but uncontrollable scary/inappropriate thoughts happen often. so. i think you should talk to someone. im sorry ur going through that ik how hard it is :/

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Anonymous #4 21h

This! I don’t think I’d accidentally kill my kid, but I wouldn’t hold myself past murdering an incompetent husband

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Anonymous #5 21h

idk where yall are from. in the south theres a reason a lot of women get cast iron skillets and rose bushes passed down to them when they get married🫣

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Anonymous #2 21h

so thats very reasonable 😭

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Anonymous #5 20h

oh wait no i read this post backwards!! i meant im scared of getting married bc im scared my husband would kill me

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Anonymous #8 12h

4?! girl yeah u got bigger things to worry about, of course u dont get it😭

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Anonymous #2 12h

LMAO wtvr the hell that means

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Anonymous #8 12h

oh that’s fun 💀

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Anonymous #6 12h

it is! i love having control of my uterus

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Anonymous #8 11h

it means u got 4 human children and im glad u dont relate but i wouldnt expect u to bc who has time to be mentally ill w 4 fckin kids? power to ya but uh. go ahead and shut down shop if u ever even slightly relate to OP

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Anonymous #2 11h

i be stressed af w a dog and a cat. ur right u have control. maybe not intelligence but control bc if ur on this app id bet ur too young to have 4 kids. but too late. make sure ur getting all ur well woman exams bc having a bunch of kids early heightens risk and uh…good luck i guess. shit😭

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Anonymous #8 11h

“wtv that means” girl yk wth it means. y’all couldn’t do a jigsaw puzzle? u dont need to fuck any more bro and im being so serious, how u make the same mistake 4 fucking times? im actually perturbed thats crazy and nobody stopped you?? oh lorddddd the village slow too😭😭😭 im crying and laughing bc this is the worst thing ive read all werk omfg

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Anonymous #2 11h

ima have to pray for ya bc girllllll. wisdom is chasing you but obviously you’re faster

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Anonymous #2 11h

the fact u actually have no idea what ur talking abt is hilarious…. ive given birth twice. i hyperovulate & bc i chose to have my kids that equals unintelligent?! and shaming young moms is pretty fucking pathetic but then again we all have free will 🤗🤗

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Anonymous #2 11h

Girl mind your own business and move on, imagine being mad at someone for doing something as normal as having kids.

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Anonymous #1 11h

no you didn’t have kids. you had four at wtv ripe age ur at. but ur right. ill mind my own business. actually ill take make some food i dont have to share with a begging child and take a nap, which i can do unbothered bc i was smart enough to not have 4 kids in my early 20s

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Anonymous #2 11h

I dont have kids

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Anonymous #2 11h

If humans didn’t have kids then we would be extinct, honestly having babies in your 20’s is normal and many people are in a more stable point in their life. Everyone is different.

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Anonymous #8 11h

you had 50 years of fertility and did it immediately. are you married to the bio dad? were you? is there alimony? is he paying child support? if smthn happens god forbid are you in the will/on insurance policies? you made a dumb choice. if you’re not on bc or using protection you’re trying your luck and thats fucking stupid. im sure ur kids are wonderful and im not hating on them. but u made dumb choices at ur age and i, as a taxpayer, am allowed to say that.

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Anonymous #2 11h

If you don’t want kids then don’t have kids… you don’t get to decide that for anyone else.

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Anonymous #2 11h

mind you, i love sex. and have been doing it for 4 years. ive never had a child. its ok to be selfish and dumb and make bad choices. but dont come after me for calling it out. anyways its 8. maybe lets tuck ur kids in for bed, and ill get ready to go to the club. which i can do. bc i made smarter choices 😭😭😭😭

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Anonymous #2 11h

my kids were my smartest choice. im 20 & married to my high school sweetheart and i have a college degree like im really missing the point of my “struggle”?! everyone has autonomy over their choices & we as women should be less judgmental of other women.

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Anonymous #8 11h

lmfaoooo oh god. yk what. u have a good night it feels like punching down atp

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Anonymous #2 11h

Those are some crazy assumptions you’re making rn about OP’s situation 💀

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Anonymous #2 11h

Good night!

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Anonymous #1 11h

bro im genuinely not. i commented initially about how i understand such thoughts bc i also have ocd. and then dumb and dumber hopped in to say they could never imagine thinking that, invalidating OPs feelings knowing damn well they made dumb choices as women their age in a society and time where they had plenty. im not talking to OP. just those idiots

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Anonymous #2 11h

You are making assumptions though

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Anonymous #2 11h

Just because you feel it would be dumb for you to have kids now doesn’t mean everyone feels that way about themself, also I’m sure OP’s own thoughts are horrifying to them and it’s inherently concerning for other people to try and put themselves in OP’s shoes

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Anonymous #1 11h

no its dumb in general. i have degrees in womens studies, african diaspora studies, mechanical engineering, history w a italian minor and am still in school at one of the too universities in the world, from which having a degree can get you visas internationally, for architecture. theres 12 ppl in my cohort. im 22. ive been fucking. and have no kids. stop excusing it.

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Anonymous #2 11h

I don’t believe you lol

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Anonymous #2 11h

bitch shut up like don’t u have a club to get to?! OMG we get that ur so smart, u love birth control, u love sex, u love condoms and u shame young moms that u never met !! it’s a great day to be you!! have a good night

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Anonymous #2 11h

Again without people having kids we would be extinct, throughout literally ALL of human history this has been normal to do. OP seems to be in a situation they are happy with. I don’t get the problem.

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Anonymous #1 11h

ok. my dms are on, u can ask my name and google me. then u can also see my work history with the aclu and federal government at the nps

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Anonymous #1 11h

they could have kids any other time. i got degrees. they got children. i make 90k as a student they get husbands to pay their bills. its stupid. and i wont argue any further. i do want kids. but ill adopt mine. i wont argue any further but ask..how are they gonna pay for college 4 times so their kids dont end up like them? is there a savings account? i bet i know the answer😭

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Anonymous #2 11h

i do. see how efficiently i got ready waiting for my lyft bc i dont have anyone to answer to? anyways. hook em horns🧡

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Anonymous #2 11h

Hating on people who have kids but wanting to adopt kids is… a choice… you know someone has to have those kids right?

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Anonymous #2 11h

Again making assumptions… weren’t you going to bed?

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Anonymous #1 11h

yeah. historically it was done bc ppl needed to manufacture their own labor force to work their land. thats not necessary anymore, its recreational. the problem is children suffer when unequipped and unwed mothers have a bakers dozen. and the taxpayers, like you and i pay to take care of them. when pregnancy and childbirth is easily preventable while still allowing consexual safe sex

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Anonymous #8 11h

nah girl more power to ya. My mom had 4 kids and I saw how hard ts was. I couldn’t imagine doing it so young

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Anonymous #6 11h

ty pretty 🩷

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Anonymous #2 11h

You’re probably just going to lie about who you are lmao 🤣

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Anonymous #1 11h

no i was going to the club. and im adopting kids bc THE ORIGINAL POST was about mental health issues. and i care enough about motherhood to mot pass down anything. just like i care enough to call out people having kids willy nilly young and depending on”high school sweethearts” when statistically that wont be the case. i care about kids. and poverty and divorced and young parents leaves a mark. THATS my concern.

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Anonymous #2 11h

the fact u dont get it says a lot. ill see you at 6th street

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Anonymous #2 11h

Cool then don’t have kids, you don’t have to.

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Anonymous #1 11h

i wont when you stop. i gtg but uh. change a diaper and enjoy your WIC I paid for with my childless money

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Anonymous #2 11h

Not everyone is in your situation and the fact that you don’t get that says a lot.

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Anonymous #2 11h

But I don’t have kids, and yes PLEASE go

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Anonymous #2 11h

ive been with my now husband for 8 YEARS babe like u truly know nothing about me or the house we own and paid off. being a young moms does not make me less intelligent nor does it automatically mean that i am struggling. it’s really sad that ur so ignorant for 22.

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Anonymous #8 10h

Fr, she needs to work through some internalized misogyny and also get over herself, not having kids doesn’t make anyone “better”.

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Anonymous #1 10h

oh brotherrr im blocking yall becasue anyone promoting young motherhood is an idiot but ur right. it doesn’t make me better. it makes me smarter. good luck w that tho. im not internally misogynistic. im feminist enough that id never choose a lifelong decision like that and limit myself in my 20s. i think ima sleep w the bartender tn. and not get pregnant.

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Anonymous #8 3h

I’m glad you can’t imagine it. I know many people can’t. My concerns stem from my experiences with psychosis and just that disconnection from reality. Sometimes postpartum issues come out of nowhere but for me I have that precedent. I am aware and medicated but I just never know I guess. It’s not a nice feeling

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Anonymous #2 3h

Based on your other comments it seems you’re dealing with something other than or on top of OCD. I’m obviously glad that I can have sex without getting pregnant and am blessed to live somewhere with plan c if needed but like that’s just me. I’m not gonna freak out at other people for getting married and having kids.

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Anonymous #4 3h

Oh yeah I’m not even thinking about an evil teenage boy. I’m talking about postpartum psychosis and in general losing my mind. A husband can always kill you I suppose but to me that’s a more irrational driving thought. If that makes sense

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Anonymous OP 3h

Not that it’s super out there I just personally weigh my fears. We all decide what is and isn’t worth the risk

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Anonymous #6 3h

That’s fair. I know my experiences (thankfully) aren’t universal. I hope to not be with someone whose emotions are volatile as my own but you never really know

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Anonymous #7 3h

He would know about killing kids

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Anonymous #3 3h

That’s a concern for me too. On the other hand it could be easier because you know what to expect. Whereas for my mom she had no idea there was any relevant history until well after I’d started to have problems

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