Girl Talk on Yik Yak | Performative man haters are my worst enemy bcuz why are you acting like they’re the worst when the only thing you ever post about is wanting a bf?? uhm???

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Girl Talk 17h

Performative man haters are my worst enemy bcuz why are you acting like they’re the worst when the only thing you ever post about is wanting a bf?? uhm???

Anonymous 16h

I said this once and got hated beyond belief😍

Anonymous 15h

when they claim to hate men but surround themselves with the most misogynistic male friend group possible🤩

Anonymous 14h

Also can I ask why being a man hater is something to perform? Genuine question. I’m a bit confused bc we live in a male-centered patriarchal world, life is easier if you don’t fight against patriarchy unfortunately. So why perform the fighting against patriarchy, but actually rock with it? What does one get out of faking a critique of “men” as a construct? People hate women that hate men, it’s a hard life to live, knowing and criticizing patriarchy.

Anonymous 17h

I hate man haters. its almost always their whole personality, and like, talk about sexism?? imagine if the rolls were reversed and some dude's whole personality was how much he hates women.

Anonymous 15h

I’m a real man hater and I remind my bf of that all the time

Anonymous 13h

I think there’s definitely nuance to this take just because while I genuinely hate all that men have done, I still love and cherish the men in my life. Because I cut out any man that starts pulling any bullshit. I think it’s fine to want a good man in your life and express that.

Anonymous 16h

dare i say man haters are also male centered 🌝

Anonymous

#1 14h

“If the roles were reversed” isn’t a very sound argument. It shouldn’t be your whole personality of course. But when women hate on men, it’s punching up, when men hate on women, it’s punching down bc we live in a society that already hates women in every aspect of it. Man hating doesn’t make men oppressed. Men hating on women keeps the oppression women experience alive. “Misandry” (not a real form of oppression) doesn’t kill men. Misogyny kills women.

Anonymous

#5 14h

I see you 🤙🤙 I do the same

Anonymous

#6 14h

Da truth🫡

Anonymous

#6 14h

ALSO also why can you not hate men at large and still hope to find one who loves and cares for and respects you enough that you want to establish a relationship with them?

Anonymous

#5 14h

I think this is a little different but I understand your point. It’s a difficult thing to grasp sometimes but I try to describe it as; “men” aren’t real, and “women” aren’t real. The creation of gender- combined with a system of hierarchy creates the patriarchal world we see today. If I said “I hate men” I don’t mean people in my life I adore that happen to be a man, I mean the construct of men as a whole. Because if “men” are a group that exists in this world, they are the oppressors. So, to me

Anonymous

#6 14h

-“I hate men” = “I hate the patriarchal oppressors”. And when it comes to relationships this can get a little controversial in online spaces. But the whole “ladies, you don’t need a man, be alone instead” is mostly a great mindset to have. However, women still will desire men, and we don’t want to shame women for this desire. It’s all about making “men” a safe space for women. And this takes work. You would have to find a man that is secure and willing to learn.

Anonymous

#6 14h

I think this question is a little nuanced and intersectional, there can be multiple reasons why women might pretend to hate men, but in this scenario, my friend’s performance stems from wanting male-validation and also wanting to relate to the women around her, but too embarrassed to admit that she does like the validation from men. If that makes any sense at all. I think admitting that you want male validation is a lot harder for some women, which is why they might preform instead of reflecting

Anonymous

#5 14h

You can do both, a lot of women do. I’m pointing out the women who secretly seek male validation to the point it consumes their entire worth and identity. There’s a line to it ykwim 😔

Anonymous

OP 14h

Ok I see. That’s so interesting that “hating men” has become a thing to perform to relate to women but I guess I can see it. I just remember being basically ostracized from a lot of people I was close with when I began to notice everyday patriarchal things and say them out loud (in like middle school). People would always say I’m being dramatic or ask if i “even loved my dad” 😭😭

Anonymous

OP 14h

I get what you’re saying because I think it’s almost like they want a boyfriend more than they want a relationship because having a boyfriend validates a women’s existence and value (unfortunately). And this is what insecure women could do (not all ofc). And if they have a sadness or insecurity within them of wanting to be validated it could manifest in this way

Anonymous

#5 14h

Having a bf 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Yeah this post is for you

Anonymous

#7 14h

I would maybe check my other comments bc it generally isn’t a good thing to shame women for having boyfriends.

Anonymous

#7 14h

Nuance is so dead like yes I’m in a relationship with a man and yes I also believe in dismantling the patriarchy and hate the way men are allowed to behave

Anonymous

#6 14h

I don’t care, I know you girls Go from one man to the next and act like “ooh I haaaaate men” no you fucking don’t

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Anonymous

#5 14h

🙄 nope you said youre a “real man hater” and here you are getting dicked down on all fours by your man excuse me for not believing you “hate men” Ms “man hater”

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Anonymous

#7 14h

I mean I’ve been w mine for 4 years and we have lots of conversations about misogyny and the patriarchy and what he can do as a man to make things better for others. You sound like you hate women tho ngl 😭😭

Anonymous

#5 14h

Also guys- unfortunately straight cis women do exist (I’m not one of them) but there will always be women desiring men we can’t shame them for doing this. Women want to be cared for a loved and seen and have a good man that understands the world around them and his role in the world as well as hers. Hating on men doesn’t mean specific men either- it means hating on the construct of men because the existence of “men” as we know it means women are oppressed. Sometimes I don’t think we think about-

Anonymous

#6 14h

Gender and oppression as deeply as we should before committing

Anonymous

#5 14h

and you sound like you LOVE men ngl getting fucked by a man for four years acting like you dont like men is too funny why are you hypocrites always to loudest?

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Anonymous

#6 14h

You have a bf and love dick blah blah blah Keep pretending you dont like men 🥱

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Anonymous

#7 14h

Why r u so obsessed with my bf fucking me im dead

Anonymous

#7 14h

Ok- I’m sorry I was being respectful but you are being very rude I’m sorry you have not been able to grasp the nuance of situations like these but don’t take it out on people that consider their places in society and how it connects to their personal relationships. We have to make men apart of the conversation. And it is quite misogynistic for you to shame women for wanting/finding healthy love.

Anonymous

#7 14h

…this is crazy misogynistic what are you doing in these comments 😭😭

Anonymous

#6 14h

You are gross. Keep PRETENDING you hate men while getting fucked by then

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Anonymous

#6 14h

go worship men somewhere else

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Anonymous

#7 14h

I’m sorry I do feel bad for you. You reply as though you have been through very cruel things and are very hurt and taking it out on others.

Anonymous

#6 14h

and you reply like a liar

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Anonymous

#5 14h

I’m so sorry those comments where crazy cruel I’m just being lazy in my bed rn I hope you’re ok they must of deleted them or something I don’t see them now

Anonymous

#6 14h

Haha I’m all good thanks for checking in! I hope they find peace 🧘‍♀️

Anonymous

#5 14h

Yeah that was crazy and very woman-shaming ironically. Glad you’re good and happy with your fella!

Anonymous

#8 13h

I read the post wrong ignore me you’re right!! I missed the word only 😭😭

Anonymous

#8 13h

🙄 oh are you ANOTHER one who worships her bf and pretends she hates men while

Anonymous

#7 13h

I literally say I misread the post, and no I don’t “worship” my partner. Me and my partner have mutual respect for one another and love each other. I also wouldn’t tolerate, let alone date, a misogynist. I’m very strict on certain things (opinions on abortion, views on feminists, the way they treat women, etc) and wouldn’t compromise these ideals. I generally do not trust most men off the bat and hate the patriarchy and how so many men benefit from it, but I’m also not 5 and can acknowledge -

Anonymous

#8 13h

- that in every day life it’s much more case by case. I have amazing men in my life and I’ve had horrible men in my life. I’m a lot more confident in myself now though and generally don’t give men the time of day especially when they’re clearly pricks. I also routinely call out misogyny in my male friends because even the best meaning man can be influenced by misogyny in ways they don’t realize, because they’ve never really been forced to think about it.

Anonymous

#8 13h

OH STFU it’s always I HAAAAATE MEEEEN with you and you scratch beneath the surface and it’s just you and your bf who fucks you and you looove it and OFC you have soooo many other guys you were with too yeah save us the time - I dont believe ur “haaate” for men for a single second gfy

Anonymous

#8 13h

Additionally, my entire personality doesn’t revolve around the men in my life. I have much more female relationships and prioritize myself over any man, even those I love. I misread the post and thought this was saying anyone who wants a bf is a hypocrite which I feel has nuance, but then I realized I misread and pointed that out.

Anonymous

#8 13h

BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH tell me more about how much you “haaaaate” men while you let him cum in ur face and fuck you on all fours STFU

Anonymous

#8 13h

nope this post is perfect for hypocrites like you

Anonymous

#8 13h

This is so true. I can be hard to give people grace but if you can manage to do so and they are fundamentally good people and WANT to be better and do good, the world is better for it. At the same time- sometimes I am just so tired of teaching men things 🥲 this is a valid feeling too I think and I like what you said as well.

Anonymous

#7 13h

Me and my partner don’t have sex, I’m queer and on the ace spectrum. Though my partner is a cis man, gender doesn’t matter to me in dating. I do hate the patriarchy and as a byproduct, many men. So many men actively benefit from it and are misogynistic and do not care to change. I’ve experienced it’s, my sister’s have experienced it, and my friends have experienced it. Men generally suck. I hate men the way you hate mondays. Usually they’re horrible, but that’s not to say there can’t be any -

Anonymous

#8 13h

-good Mondays or that Im not allowed to enjoy some Mondays. Generally I hate men, but there are some good ones and I’m allowed to enjoy them. Unlike men I don’t decide to hate women for no reason, my hate comes from very real fear and a desire to be safe.

Anonymous

#6 13h

Yes, I refuse to teach men shit but I will say “that’s really misogynistic just so you know” explain why, and let them do the reflecting. Most of the time they’re able to and they feel bad and stop the behavior, and the ones who don’t are no longer in my life.

Anonymous

#7 13h

You’re very clearly a man lmao.

Anonymous

#6 13h

Youre so nuanced #6 ily

Anonymous

#8 13h

Thanks!! 💕

Anonymous

#8 13h

Omg they’re still commenting 😭😭 yeah this is a guy troll that ig blocked me

Anonymous

#6 13h

I have a sneaking suspicion they blocked me too since they’re no longer responding lol

Anonymous

#8 13h

So sad like dude it’s a Friday night and you are shaming women in loving relationships online 😭😭

Anonymous

#6 13h

I know, they genuinely cope by saying that women just hate men, so when they find out women can actually like men they just hate them for being a weird POS, they crash out