Anonymous #1 2d

I do want to be but I just don’t understand why he makes no effort to put me first. Why would I stick around if it’s treated like he’s doing me a favor to come over for dinner 3x a week? I really don’t care if he’s busy or stressed because that’s supposed to be something relaxing. I don’t see a future here

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Anonymous OP 2d

it really does not sound like you want to be in this relationship. you literally just said you don’t see a future with him. and you blocked him. like at this point just break up

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Anonymous #1 2d

Yes that’s the idea how is that incongruent with what I just said. I want to be with him but not like this

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Anonymous OP 2d

why?

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Anonymous #1 2d

What do you mean why

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Anonymous OP 2d

i mean if you’re clearly miserable and you don’t like how he’s treating you and you don’t see a future with him AND you blocked him, why do you want to be with him?

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Anonymous #1 2d

I would like to own a cat but I’m allergic so I don’t

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Anonymous OP 2d

ohh so we’re playing pretend. yall deserve each other lol

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Anonymous OP 2d

it's fine to not be ok with ur partner being besties with an ex. if he's not willing to see her less then he's not the guy for you and will most likely end up back with his ex

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Anonymous #1 2d

???

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Anonymous #2 2d

that’s what I’m thinking

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Anonymous OP 2d

i'd have one last convo, lay out how u feel less prioritized then his friendship with his ex, say what u need from him in either lessening their contact and hangouts or cutting her off, and go from there. if he's not willing to change his closeness with his ex then that's your sign to put yourself first just like he seems to be putting their friendship first

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Anonymous #1 2d

how is it confusing at all that I want to be with him in theory but not practice

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Anonymous OP 2d

bc your theory is a fantasy that isn’t going to come true

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Anonymous #2 2d

Yeah I’m hoping he cares enough to contact me by Instagram or email. I don’t know how he doesn’t see how he’s hurting me. I have to assume that he knows and doesn’t care enough to do anything differently

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Anonymous OP 2d

exactly. remember that if he wanted to have changed already he would've. if he's been oblivious to this then he's emotionally immature and doesn't deserve you

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Anonymous #2 2d

He told me he wants to come over this evening to talk about it. I guess I don’t really have a say in whether or not he does that since he does have a key lol. If he presents a convincing enough argument I might let him keep it. It’s hard to be optimistic though

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Anonymous OP 2d

ya i wouldn't be tbh. put urself first. remember

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