Anonymous #1 8w

What no I love him

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Anonymous #2 8w

We are starting in a few weeks where we live it’s already free for the first 2 years

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Anonymous #3 8w

It’s not that I don’t want to I do I just don’t want him to feel like he has too do stuff like that

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Anonymous OP 8w

Why would he feel that he has to propose right now?

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Anonymous #3 8w

Idk cuz he is him idk what goes on in his brain he thinks he has to spoil me as much as he possibly can

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Anonymous #4 8w

I’ve known him for over 2 years we went to high school together and we’re friends almost all of high school

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Anonymous OP 8w

Proposing is not spoiling you. It’s a huge deal that goes beyond giving you expensive jewelry

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Anonymous #3 8w

Ik it’s a big deal we’ve talked about it we’re in college only 2 years til we graduate and we’ve known each other for 2 years

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Anonymous #3 8w

I think marriage is a blessing and when you know when you found the one why wait

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Anonymous #4 8w

“It’s just a piece of paper” rhetoric has made people really forget the ramifications of marriage. It is a legally binding contract. If you marry him, you are LEGALLY BOUND to this person for the foreseeable future. His debt is your debt, his financial decisions are your financial decisions. If you have a joint account and he decides to spend an amount he can’t pay, guess what? YOUR credit score tanks too! Can you really say, at this age, without a shred of a doubt, that this person can be fin-

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Anonymous #4 8w

Financially responsible for the next 30+ years? How about if he starts cheating? Guess what, even if he does you’re still legally bound to him, and he can put off signing divorce papers as longggggg as he likes. Do you even have the money to afford a divorce attorney? What if shit hits the fan and you need to get out, do you have $20,000 laying around for an attorney?

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Anonymous #4 8w

I can ik it’s a legally binding contract ik what marriage is and ik all our debt will connect I don’t have any doubt in my mind about him or marrying him ya is it early maybe a little but when you know they are the one why wait our college is free

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Anonymous OP 8w

Yeah when I was 16 I was so sure I was going to marry my then boyfriend and we were going to have kids and live happily ever after. Your frontal isn’t developed and no offense, you aren’t even mature enough to buy your own cigarettes, drink, or rent a hotel room. What makes you think you’re mature enough to bind yourself to someone for life? A few months ago you were still a kid in high school

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Anonymous #4 8w

Girl I have a lawyer already I have had one since I was 5 I’m not worried about having to get out I never wanna leave this man

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Anonymous OP 8w

Trust me, I agree with that. But your post sounds like you’re freaking out, so how are we supposed to know this is what you want? At the very least, see if your school has a counseling center and does free pre-marital counseling. It doesn’t mean you’re struggling in your relationship, but it can definitely point out areas of discussion if you’re wanting to get married. You don’t have to wait a long time, but don’t rush

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Anonymous #3 8w

I’m not stressing out I’m worried but I want the rest of my life to be with him and we don’t need any counseling we talk about whatever needs to be talked about and don’t keep anything from each other

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Anonymous OP 8w

You’ve had an experienced divorce attorney since you were 5? This sentence alone tells me you’re not mature or experienced enough yet because you don’t know the difference between a family lawyer and a divorce attorney

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Anonymous #4 8w

I haven’t been a kid ever I helped raise my siblings I was never a kid I have been a adult making my own life decisions for a while now and I am a smart person I can get drinks or cigarettes if I want them but I don’t I know what I want in life it if I want something I’m gonna work for it I can work and pay off any debt or anything as long as I’m with him I’m happy

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Anonymous #4 8w

My lawyer did my dads custody case and my dads divorce from my stepmom and was my lawyer when I had to give my statement about watching my stepdad and mom almost over dose thank you but my lawyer is very experienced in many different areas of the law

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Anonymous OP 8w

Babe my fiance and I have a literally perfect relationship, we’ve talked about everything under the sun for two years and we’ve never fought and we still went to counseling. It’s just about going to an experienced person and making sure you are on the same page about the tiny details or you have the tools you need to overcome obstacles together. You may just need to come to terms with the fact that you’re not mature enough for marriage right now

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Anonymous OP 8w

Everyone at 18 thinks they’re super smart, experienced, and mature. Everyone over the age of 22 can see that they’re not. There’s a reason why there’s a lot of things you can’t do until you’re 21-25, it’s because freshly 18 year olds aren’t known for their resounding decision making skills

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Anonymous #3 8w

Girl I am fully ready for marriage and I don’t need a counselor to tell me that

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Anonymous #4 8w

Yet 18 year olds can get married bc love is real and I have been working a adult job for 2 years now I have the same title as 50 years olds and make just as much as them and I’m younger and going to college so I can be there boss in 2 years so I am mature enough bc I may be 18 but I have had more responsibilities than most people my age and always have

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Anonymous OP 8w

You’re fully not mature enough honey.

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Anonymous #3 8w

I am mature enough to get engaged and plan a wedding we have already started saving for our land for our house

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Anonymous OP 8w

You think you’re so special because you’ve had a job for two years!? 🤣 hate to burst your bubble but that means absolutely nothing, most people have. Sitting here pouting saying “I’m ready for marriage I am I am!!!! I’m a big girl and I have a JOB” is definitely proving the point against yourself. Thinking you’re a big strong adult because you’ve had a job for…two years shows such a severe lack of maturity

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Anonymous OP 8w

listen, you have free will to make your own decisions, but dating for only one month and talking about proposing is completely asinine and beyond ludicrous. you’re young, don’t make an impulsive decision that could have long term consequences if it doesn’t go to plan.

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Anonymous #6 8w

See this is better than people just saying I’m in mature and shouldn’t get married

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Anonymous #4 8w

I’ve had a adult job not some teenager job and work over 50 hours a week while going to school I take more responsibility than most 20 years olds do I take care of 10 people by myself every morning

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Anonymous #7 8w

Also just from a logistical standpoint. If you want to have a wedding and not just get married at the courthouse (a courthouse wedding is totally fine if that’s what you want) it is HELL to balance work, school, AND planning a wedding at thee and time . I had to help my sister with it and it was AWFUL because it was a huge distraction and so many scheduling conflicts

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Anonymous #7 8w

*at the same time

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Anonymous #7 8w

We really don’t want a big wedding just a few people not big at all and we already have a place picked out

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Anonymous #7 8w

We will be seniors next year our programs are both only 2 years long

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