Anonymous OP 4w

I hear you, but it sounds like it was something they genuinely didn’t want. How serious was their complaint? If it was only minor irritation then yeah I get you, but if they were genuinely upset, it sounds like it wasn’t something they were in control of and like it was an invasive, months and possibly years long alteration to their body they were forced into

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Anonymous #1 4w

It’s was a minor complaint but the point is when you live in that bubble things that seem like a big deal to you are so minor in comparison to the issues other ppl face

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Anonymous #1 4w

This was also the same person who was shocked people took out loans for college because they have a college fund but if you have a basic awareness of high education in the U.S you’d know most ppl don’t have money to pay out of pocket for a private university education

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Anonymous OP 4w

i was with you until this. let them be upset that they were forced to undergo an uncomfortable or painful few years purely for the cosmetic preferences of someone else lmao

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Anonymous #2 4w

like objectively that can be an unpleasant experience. doesn’t have to mean they think that’s the worst thing to ever happen to anyone or that it isn’t a privilege to have that as an option, but their experience is their experience

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Anonymous #2 4w

They are allowed to be upset I don’t have to power to take that away from them. But I feel like when rich ppl complain about issues like this they need to do it with ppl who can relate. Complaining about have access to dental care and orthodontics work is such a first world problem

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Anonymous #2 4w

Right, like I said earlier I’m not taking away from their experience. They’re allowed to feel the way the feel. But people are also allowed to vocalize how they feel about their perspective on information they volunteered

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Anonymous OP 4w

so if they want to talk about their experience they need to surround themselves with equally privileged people? girl, they’re never going to check their privilege if everyone around them has equally privileged experiences

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Anonymous #2 4w

Well they’re around ppl who aren’t as privileged and their still tone def so what exactly are you suggesting?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Ultimately you need to know your audience. You’re allowed to complain as much as you want about your life but it shouldn’t come as a shock that if you complain to the wrong ppl it won’t be received well. Simple as that.

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Anonymous OP 4w

the reality check for a lot of my friends went sort of like this “ugh my life is so hard my parents made me get braces” “oh my parents couldn’t afford braces. i wish i could’ve had braces.” if the only response they receive is “ugh me too,” they never realize their privilege

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Anonymous OP 4w

talking about your experiences with people from different backgrounds is actually beneficial to everyone involved. i’m sure there are ways in which you are privileged and they’re not. it’s a mutual exchange

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