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Can I be so honest? And this might be a hot take but I hate hookup culture. 😐
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Anonymous 4w

Idc what other people do but at the same time hookup culture really does directly affect actual dating and I’m tired of this

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Anonymous 4w

It’s fucking ruined dating and men are just expecting it now without even trying anymore. I hate it so much.

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Anonymous 4w

I agree. It started off as "women can have casual sex too #feminism." But it pretty much became a competition to see if we can be as nonchalant and honestly dismissive and dehumanizing to our sexual partners as much as men are to us And if you ever had a problem or critique about that, then you're derided as being anti-feminist and a puritan. I thought we want to have healthy sexual relationships between everybody, and not just playing down to men's level

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Anonymous 4w

I remember I posted sumn like this and one girl literally tried to make be feel bad for not being able to have causal sex….. for 1 that’s not normal as much as people try to play it off and 2 it’s called self respect that doesn’t have u landing in every guys lap😂

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Anonymous 4w

i don’t care what people do with their bodies but i’d be lying if i said that hookup culture hasn’t changed dating because it has. all people want right away is sex and i’m exhausted. i’m 23 and too damn grown to be someone’s fuck buddy.

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Anonymous 4w

You’re not alone❤️❤️

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Anonymous 4w

This is like the coldest take ever

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Anonymous 4w

I only have 2 bodies and both were from long-term relationships and were both men who abused me so the concept of hookup culture sounds a little appealing to me right now since I’m tired of feeling emotionally invested in the person I’m having sex with bc they just hurt me in the end. But I can’t wrap my head around how unsafe hookup culture feels STD-wise, condoms only protect from some STDs not all of them

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Anonymous 4w

some animals have one mate for life and others will mate with anyone and try to mate with anything. everyone has their own wants, needs, and morals. i do also hate it though because of what people tend to expect BECAUSE of hookup culture, if that makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

So much can be said about all the different movements for casual sex over the years and whether that actually benefits everybody equally. Not just between genders but for attitudes towards sex and relationships more generally

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

I also can’t imagine feeling so vulnerable with a total stranger not knowing who they could be. It feels too risky to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

it’s fair to not want to partake in casual sex but as soon as you start slut shaming ur on the wrong side … it doesn’t need to devolve into the type of language that “landing in every guys lap” implies … it is normal to want to do it and normal to not want to do it … humans are animals and morals are relative and not inherent

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Anonymous 4w

i think there’s a difference between hookups and hookup culture. hookup culture feels very much more as pressure to sleep with everyone and you’re a prude if you don’t do so. to me, it’s not just a guy i like wanting hookups, it would be him shaming me for not wanting to do that as well, if that makes sense. it’s just the culture of it creates expectations rather than everyone has their own preference

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 4w

example: had 2 men this week ask me to come over just to hookup. i’ve known both of them for less than 2 weeks. I’M FUCKING TIRED. i’m just done.

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