Girl Talk on Yik Yak | AITA : i have a friend and shes great but a little boring and i feel like i do all the social lifting in our friendship. i also pretty sure im her only friend. she asks me every single week if i want to hang out and i feel bad for saying no. 1/2

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AITA : i have a friend and shes great but a little boring and i feel like i do all the social lifting in our friendship. i also pretty sure im her only friend. she asks me every single week if i want to hang out and i feel bad for saying no. 1/2

Anonymous 2w

2/2 just last week i invited her over for a girls night and the next day she was asking to hang out. i don’t always want to be the bad guy and decline but she asks so often. last month i was super busy with work and school and my schedule was packed for basically the entire month. i told her we could plan to do something the following month and she still texted and called me every week asking if i was busy. she’s super sweet but like almost overly available and it’s suffocating

Anonymous 2w

Maybe try to be proactive instead and say hey I’m pretty busy this week but I’d love to see you on this day if you’re available otherwise we can plan to hangout next week. This way rather than responding to her request to hang out with rejection you are the requester but also are setting a boundary for when the hangout can happen

Anonymous 2w

But also do you even want to be her friend? it sounds like you have a pretty negative opinion of her and tbh it’s not fair to her to pretend to be her friend and then resent her for it. If you’re worried about her being friendless maybe encourage her to try new activities where she can meet people or introduce her to people she might click with.

Anonymous 2w

Set boundaries✨

Anonymous

#1 2w

how? i’ve tried to say no as nicely as possible but she’s very sensitive and has ocd that manifests in this way. i’m scared to upset her

Anonymous

#2 1w

yes i want to be her friend, i enjoy being around her I just dont want to hang out every single day im off. i dont have a negative opinion of her im just being honest about how i feel about our friendship. when we’re together she doesn’t talk much or really socialize with me and it never seems like shes having fun. i feel like i do all the work to socialize and make sure shes enjoying herself but i can never really tell.

Anonymous

#2 1w

im autistic and friendships are hard for me and its even harder when people make me feel overwhelmed by constant contact.