no one else seems to see a problem they all love her. but she makes them all hate everyone she doesn't like or didn't have a good time with, she talks so much shit, she acts disgusted about everything especially my other friends joking around and having fun (like she'll scowl/scoff at them or move away or be like i don't know them),

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This happened to me in HS and I learned two things 1) being honest with ppl u can trust and confiding/reaching out with them is NOT the same as gossiping. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge something mean/wrong is happening bc then in some ways ur enabling it. That’s not to say shittalking is like ok. But I let someone treat me rlly poorly for YEARS bc I didn’t want to “sink to her level” by telling someone, and I shouldn’t have.

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my friend group is kind of similar, the only difference is that people do acknowledge that she’s not being a very nice friend sometimes. i would say branching out and making other friends outside of this group is what has helped me because you’ll have a support system that’s not related to this person at all!

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2) you are most likely not the only one who notices and is bothered. When I eventually did share, some of my friends were rlly shocked, but all of them cared and were mad on my behalf. And more than that, a couple of them ended up sharing that they'd had similar experiences but weren't sure if they were being dramatic by taking offense bc no one else had ever stood up about it.

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and honestly why not try to have a conversation w her? sometimes people aren’t trying to sound like a party pooper it’s just kind of their defense mechanisms or something they’ve been surrounded with growing up so they don’t even see anything wrong with it until someone points out

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