sounds like you have an avoidant attachment style. it can make it hard to see yourself in relationships and give you the ick (so to speak) when men approach you. you might want to look into therapy or at least look at how you process emotions. it has a lot to do with your parents relationship with you growing up. you also might like pursuing guys instead of being pursued (i pursued my current bf bc i hated being approached and wondered why they even liked me)

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